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writes:Hi Allyes i am sure you have heard it all before. but heres my story.I joined a gym new years resolution and all the rest and as part of that I had to do an induction, turns out the guy who took me on this was really cool and I was attracted to him. He is not your everyday drop dead gorgeous gym instructor bunny but there was just something about him. So a few weeks went on and i swear he was watching me at the gym (maybe i just have tickets on myself :) Anyway he has his own Personal Training programme through the gym so I contacted him and organised to do this. We met at the gym last weekend to talk through the programme and things, i was a bit nervous around him but it all went well. Today i had my first session, I loved it!! was very hardcore in terms of intensity but I felt very comfortable with him and he helped me when I was struggling. We talked and stuff as it went on and seem to get along really well and have quite a few things to talk about and in common.. (I know trainers are paid to be nice to their clients) he asked me what i was doing in the weekend, more than once. I enjoyed the work out and plan on many more but as an added bonus i enjoyed his company too a little too much. When i got to my car i looked at my phone and it had been 2 hours!! the workout was only meant to be for one, so i felt a little bad i had kept him for two hours- I didnt realise but we must of just ran over time. he gave me a sample of something to try which i did when i got home and I txed him to tell him thanks and that it was great. He replyed back straight away and we txted a couple of more times (just related to gym stuff) then the conversation kind of ended. I will continue my traning and this isnt affected by my feelings but i really feel like there could be something there and he is the type of guy I would love to get to know and spend more time with.Where do I go from here? I dont think he has a girlfriend- but how do I know? and I am unsure if he would see his clients out of the gym and i dont want to be all full on. I am not in a rush and maybe need to get to know him a little bit better but in my mind also I feel like if he wanted to see me he would ask the question. Also when i have been at the gym in the week he has always made sure to say hi and i have felt his eyes watching me (still could be me thinking this and him being nice)Any advice? It is a bit of a prediciment but apparently quite common.. Imagine getting a great body and guy!!
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 Most personal trainings have a few girlfriends or prospects. You want to be the main leading lady. So you idea is great mention the long hours and the.sessions and manuver it in about being single dating and go from there.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 So you have a little crush on your gym instructor?!nothing wrong in that!
So before you ask him out you need to know if he's dating,you can do this by asking him directly but in a nonchalante way like 'hey you seem to be working at the gym for long hours,how do you make time for family,girlfriends'..if he doesn't have a girlfriend he tell you he doesn't..that's a green signal for you to proceed!from what your saying it seems like he might be interested but you can't be that sure,I say give it a couple more days and then may be once you find out he's single you could ask him out,I mean guys love girls wo are bold and know what they want in life,I'm sure he'l be impressed!so for now the harmless flirting will be good:) good luck OP
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reader, Abalicious +, writes (2 March 2013):
Definitely give it a couple more sessions, and if it goes seemingly just as well, you should make an obvious move or ask him out. Worse case scenario, he will at least be flattered, and even better, you will probably get a date! Just tell him you are thinking about getting a different personal trainer so that he'd feel free to say yes when you ask him out, or something flirtatious but forgivable in case he does have a gf.
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