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writes:My boyfirend is going away for a month and I know im really gonna miss him. I do have a life hobbies and friends but miss him loads.I can suffer from anxeity attacks and dont want to come accross needy to him I dont want to push him away We text a few times every day and he usually includes 'sexy' or 'babe' in his texts but im not very 'culed-up' when it comes to guys.I know in a month is not that long but at the moment it seems like forever I have even tried hypnotherapy to help with the anxeity but nothing seems to fully help. Also if anyone can help with some advice for the feeling that I get when I text him and I dont get a reply I know there could lots of reasons for this (phone turned off, battery failed/out of range, just busy) but even knowing this I still seem to firstly think 'hes gone off me' and begin to worryAny advice would be great please x
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (18 September 2006):
 I'm not certain that there is abandonment issues, or if you have low self esteem for whatever reason. In any event, talking to a therapist might help. I suffered from anxiety upon the death of my father and hypnotherapy worked for me. You may consider taking a class in public speaking. . . or any subject that will get your mind on something besides your boyfriend, and challenge your mind at the same time. Exercise also helps relieve stress and anxiety, so start jogging, swimming, or whatever activity you prefer that will get your heart rate up and get your mind occupied.
Good luck!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (18 September 2006):
 I think talking to a professional may help you with some of your problems. You're obviously scared of being alone and may feel that people in your past abandoned you and you're scared of this happening again with your partner. Your anxiety sounds like it's all stemming from this obsession with the fact that everyone you love will leave you in the end and that's not the case.
But if you carry on acting this way, they will leave you, then your fears are reinforced and the pattern continues. You need to talk to someone and get to the bottom of these problems, find out who left you and who you resent. Problems like this can start off small but can turn into something much bigger and ruin relationships.
Get help now, honey. If your boyfriend loves you, he will support you. Get to the bottom of your problems and you'll find you can be a better partner to him and your relationship will get better also.
Good luck.
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