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writes:well im 15 years old and iv been with my boyfriend a while and we are ready to have sex, but the only thing is he cant use condoms so i am not protected, but i really want to do it with him because im ready and im in love with him, but im scared incase i fall pregnant so i need some ideas where i can get the morning after pills from without my mother finding out, any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): You're underage which is unforunate but the law is the law so you'll have to wait until you're both 16 or older. As for the contraception issue if he really can't use condoms then go on the pill. All you have to do is make an appointment with your doctor and he/she will prescribe it. The best thing about that is you get patient confidentiality so your parents would never need to know, although I cant see them having a problem with it when you turn 16, they'd only see it as being responsible.
DO NOT however choose to have unprotected sex with him, the consequences could be bad for you. The morning after pill is not a good idea either because you can only take it a certain amount of times over a period of time and it can also cause side-effects such as mood swings, nausea, stomach ache, tiredness, headaches and dizziness, to name a few.
hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your help you have made me think now ai guess i will just have to tell im condom or no love thanks for your advice peoples.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 Of course he can use condoms. Don't let him make you believe different
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 April 2010):
1 - In the UK, to have sex under the age of 16 is illegal. He and you can both be arrested.
2 - Men will say what they can to have unprotected sex. Yes, he can use condoms. He just doesn't want to. Do not be naive about men. Ever.
You're not ready, and he's just trying to use you.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (11 April 2010):
 Ok First of all, as you are 15, LEGALLY it is against the law for you to have sex in the UK. The LEGAL AGE OF CONSENT is 16, so unless you are 16, you are unable to give consent, and it will be classed as RAPE, regardless of if you say yes, think you are ready, or want it to happen. This includes ALL sexual acts, including, fingering, handjobs, oral sex, penetrative sex of the vagina or anus. Basically ALL sex is against the law at 15.
http://www.opsi.gov.uk/acts/acts2003/ukpga_20030042_en_2#pt1-pb5-l1g9
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
Secondly....WHY can he not use condoms?
Because as far as I am concerned, there is NO excuse for not using them.
1. if he is allergic to latex, there are other types of latex free condom available, so he can use those instead.
2. if he is concerned about size, again there are multiple sizes, bigger, smaller, wider, thinner. He just has to pick the right one.
Young teenage boys especially like to play the "I cant use condoms" line in order to have unprotected sex with girls. They think it is "cool" and "macho" to do it without. DO NOT fall for this line. If he wants sex, he HAS to wear a condom. No excuses, no ifs, no buts. No condom, no sex.
If you are going to break the law and become sexually active, then you need to be aware of all the facts about contraception (which you are not), STI's (which you are not, otherwise you wouldnt be considering unprotected sex), and the risk of pregnancy.
Book yourself an appointment with your Doctor or practice nurse to talk about these things. They will advise you on different types of contraception. There is the pill, patch, injection, coil, implant, all sorts of hormonal contraception that YOU will have to take, as well as him wearing condoms. The doctor will give you a general health check to make sure you are able to take the pill etc, blood pressure, weight, medical history. Beware tho, that often the pill has side effects and many women have to try a couple of brands before they find one that works. You also have to be 100% commited to it, as missing even one pill can cause you to be unprotected, thus falling pregnant. It really is a very SERIOUS and mature part of life. If you are not sensible enough to do this, you are not mature enough to have sex.
The contraception YOU take, protects against pregnancy, the condom protects against pregnancy AND Sexual infections and diseases. Really, both are recommended.
He can get you pregnant the first time you have unprotected sex. Even if he does not ejaculate in you, you can still get pregnant from pre-cum. If you have uprotected sex, likelyhood is, you WILL get pregnant. Its up to you.
Also, the morning after pill IS NOT to be used as a form of contraception. That is a last resort for people who have had failures of other types of contraception. It is a very serious type of medicine and is not dishes out like sweeties. There are side effects, and there can be complications. Is one night of unprotected sex worth it?
The fact that you are even asking this question, suggests that you are not ready for a sexual relationship. I really would re-consider this until you are aware of ALL the facts, and are able to be safe.
Tiger
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): Why can't he use condoms, is he allergic to latex? If that is the case, there are other condoms out there that are not latex. You may not be able to find them at your local convenience store, but they do exist. If you do not mind the wait you could probably find them for sale on the internet. If the problem is not an allergic reaction but rather he for some reason literally has an issue wearing condoms, you could always try using a female condom as well (though this is probably made of latex, so it will not help if he would still have an allergic reaction). Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): the morning after pill should not be used as birth control ... and why can your boyfriend not wear a condom? If he doesn't like them then it is tough, no glove, no love etc. You are worth more than putting your life at risk not just from babies but STIs and STDs. If all else fails - go to the doctors and asked to be put on the pill. I believe they are not allowed to tell your parents even if you are legally underage for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): Pills do not protect you from STI's.
What are his reasons for not being able to use a condom? Sounds like rubbish to me. Tell him it's with a condom or not at all, i bet he will magically be able to wear one then.
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