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writes:Me and my husband have been together for 9 years and married 1 year, we both discussed from day 1 about getting married and if we wanted children. I'm 25 nearly 26 and my husband is 27 nearly 28. I am ready to have a baby and have been ready for the past year or so. I am on the birth control pill, ive tried talking to my husband before and he says he wants to go travelling first, we still haven't been travelling. I want to discuss it again but he says the more I talk about it the more it puts him off. I cant see us going travelling and when I mean travelling I mean a few long weekend trips away within the year. I really don't know what to do. I am started to get a little down and upset and every time a friend tells me they are pregnant I cant help but feel jealous what can I do someone please help????
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 September 2018):
 In 4 or 6 years you will still only be 29 to 31 ! And having a baby " because all my friends have one " is the worst possible reason to have a child- it's not an " adult " reason, and I think when you'll be 30 and over you'll see that , even if now you don't.
Anyway if he is not on the same page with you about making babies- he just is not and he is right, pestering and insisting will only make him less cooperative. I think it's important that the future dad WANTS to be a dad with all his heart, and , even if you should convince him to get you pregnant now, he'd do it just to make YOU happy, and make you shut up about babies already !, and keep the peace in the family. Not because being a father is his own sincere wish. Which would be a bad start for the child ,as parenting goes.
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reader, ELD +, writes (17 September 2018):
ELD is verified as being by the original poster of the questionproblem with him is i know I will be waiting another 4 years or even 6 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2018): Both of you need to be ready before having a child. He’s not ready yet. There’s things he still wants to do (traveling) before becoming a father and that’s ok. It’s not fair of you to push him just because you feel jealous of your friends. I understand you are ready but he isn’t yet, and every couple has their own timeline of when they will be ready TOGETHER. You need to compromise. Ask him what his dreams are and tell him your dreams are to start a family soon. See what plan you can come up with that suits you both.
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