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writes:Ok ill try and keep this short. Im a Male of 16 years of age and still in secondary school. In year 7 - 8 I went out with a girl who i really like and to be honest i havent liked anyone as much as i have liked her. I recently found out that she likes me again and well we have been getting closer since. She has already lost her virginity and I haven't. I am a strong believer in losing it to someone who actually means something to me and something i remember. I can't tell my friends this because they will call me 'gay' etc. Because shes the girl i have liked the most ever and i can see myself doing it again i feel it will be special. But its not the question of 'am I ready' Because i am. I have thought about it alot and im 16 now, legal etc etc I am up for sex :L But im not sure if i want to wait longer till college...Of course this same girl will not be here.....And i was planning on being a Virgin to virgin to lose it so maybe i am someone's special person but that doesnt matter that much. I have never been drunk, i have had a few shots before, i have had 1 cig just to try it and im a model student. I kinda like this reputation of never taking advantage of a girl and just generally being nice. So yes i really want some guidance with this. Thank you for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): Watch out for the double standard that is imposed against chaste men.
Everyone likes to compliment you on being choosy yourself. But the same people suddenly start saying "oh just get over it" when you say you are holding out a woman who has lived the same way.
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reader, lysha +, writes (7 April 2011):
 i like how you think that you should be nice to a girl, im almost 17 so ishould understand where your coming from, i lost my virginity 3 months ago, and ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months this friday, ithought exactly the same way as you did lose it to someone that you have deep feelings for and istuck to what id been telling myself since .. ifirst learnt what sex was? :') you say their will be a different girl if you wait till college, well why cant you give it ago? you dont have to lose it straight away, because you wanna see if you last first dont you:) wait until you think your relationship is strong enough and you feel its going to go somewhere before you decide to lose it to her,:)theres very few boys that wait till they are your age but ican tell you know the girl you lose it to will respect that you haven't slept with loads of other girls before them it makes them feel for special and same goes for boys they respect girls that havent slept with loads of different boys:)hope this helped:)
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (7 April 2011):
I'm not sure what your question is.
I mean you have no obstacles to loosing your virginity, but you haven't made your mind yet. Well, we can hardly decide for you.
I will try to make a kind of general answer here.
If you have to choose who you are going to loose your virginity to, do it when you are sure you know who's the right one. I mean, it really does matter who you loose your virginity to. If you are not sure of her, wait for another girl.
I went right to that issue because you wrote she's not a virgin and you have thought about loosing it in a virgin-to-virgin relationship. And at 16 you won't have problem finding a virgin girl. Which won't be the same when you are 21.
If you have a good reputation and you are pride about it. Don't betray yourself.
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 if you are going to get with her just for the sex, because you think shes special then your brain is playing tricks on you... after such a time of not being with her, you grew apart, and those feelings won't just come back, they have to be worked into... and you want to lose your virginity to a virgin, which she is not... if you want to share it with someone special, then get back with her and wait a while in the relationship until you know it will be right and will mean something, or you can find a different girl and be with her and then when the time is right do it... but seriously, PLEASE DON'T base your decision on SEX, base it on whether or not you LIKE the person and want it to be something you mean, and worth sharing with that person! hope i helped :D
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