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writes:Hi..I'd just like some other people's perspectives on this.I've recently just transferred to another college to continue in my second year of A-levels,,about a week ago,, and basically I didn't know anyone. I was alone in a class on like the 2nd day, and this cute guy asked if I needed company, so we got chatting. Now, each time we have that class he's always w/ me and and seems to really enjoy my company, we chat about everything, mostly pretty personal.. One of his friends there even came up to me knowing my name saying he'd spoken about me [not saying what he'd said though]. Last time we sat together he told me of this party his friend was having, and said I should come along..So you can see why I'd presume he may be interested.But what confuses me is that whenever I see him in the halls he won't say a word. Even in other classes..he just sits there, maybe smile a little that's it. His friends all think I'm hot and and everything.. and and I even dated one of them few years back.So why the ignorance?? Am I just mis-reading signals??Btw, when speaking to him, I noticed his pupils were unbelievably dilated,, I heard that's supposed 2 be a sign that he's interested or something?Reply please thankyou. xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionReply to anonymous..
Yeah, that's probably the case. I'm pretty sure he's single & everything, but there could be chance he's liking someone else aswell. Becausem facing facts, he must like me to some extent,, he makes it ridiculously obvious in class. I'm just afraid to ask him, even though it is valid, cos I don;t think he'll answer me proper, or say stuff like "I've only known you a month!" etc.
But there is another possibility he isn't really saying anything other than in class;; his other friend seems kinda..interested [CRINGE i hate talking like this].. so maybe that's why?I dunno. But thanks for your help anyways it's totally appreciated =] xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): At first I was thinking well of course he likes you. But after I read that he ignores you everywhere else I was like "huh?"
It sounds to me like he has a girlfriend and that is why he ignores you everywhere else because she or her friends are probably around and so he is trying to be discreet. And he knows that in that class he can't get caught.
However, if you know for sure that he doesn't have a girlfriend, then I still think he is hiding something from you. Maybe there is another girl that he has been trying to get with. And so he can't make you obvious in her presence or her friends presence.
In any case, you should just casually ask him why he never says hi to you or talks to you outside of that class. Say it jokingly or something. Don't be shy. That is a valid question. And you should be totally casual about it and be open to accepting whatever answer he gives you. You guys are friends right? So ask him. Don't pretend like you don't notice that he never says hi to you or that you are not suspicious. That's lame. On the contrary. Be open with him. He'll be more open with you if he sees that you are straightforward and that you are not bothered by whatever he has to say.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (16 September 2007):
Accepting a first date is always a risk. Ask the friend of his you previouly dated about him.
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