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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi im 19 years old and 21 weeks pregnant with a baby girl.Ive been with my bf for a year in October. We have a lot of issues in our relationship. We've been okay i guess. But the issue is the way he treats me and how i react. He likes to call me out of my name, for ex. Stupid bitch, bitch, scumbag, piece of shit, lowlife, fat bitch, fat slob and there are plenty more. and my reaction is just hit em. He makes me so ANGRY. i cant help it. its like i want him to feel the way he makes me feel. i cant say much to him to make him feel the way he makes me feel. hes always saying i do anything for him. But when he comes here he brings his dirty clothes and i wash him usually maade him breakfast every morning waitedd on him hand and foot.He borrowed 160 dollars out of the money i was saving to go shopping for the baby. if he doesnt get his way he throws a temper tantrum till he gets his way. sex is a big issue now also since ive gotten pregnant... dont care much for it anymore or im sick half the time. he doesnt get it. always threatening to break up with me cos i dont "give it up" when he wants it. I don't know what to anymore. i want to be with him but im soooo tired of his attitude and they way he treats me. he tries to control every aspect of my life. and i pretty much allow it. i pretty much do whatever he wants me too, but when i ask him to do something for me it takes him HOURS to do it longest i waited was 2 DAYS!! - yes ridiculous.just wanted to see if hed actually do it. but as soon as i go to do it myself hes tries to say ill do it i told you id do it while laying or sitting on his backside while watching me do it. i have anger issues i do but i try talking to him and telling him im sick of the way he treats me. and his response is treat me like a bf. WTH. treat me like im your gf and the mother of your unborn child.?? I know my hitting doesnt fix anything but i don't know what else to do anymore. i will be signing up for cuonsuling soon. but i need opinions now please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): What you are involved in is domestic violence. Dv is never good for a child and with you being 21 weeks along, is probably affecting that child in utero. Two wrongs don't make a right, so hitting him as a retaliation for his name calling is not the answer. I am glad to hear that you will be in counseling, that is very important first step. Also remember that the choice to leave is within your control. Many states have specific laws and agencies governing dv in relationships. You may end up going to jail for hitting him and having your child removed from your care for the dv.
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