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writes: hi there! i am 20 years old and pregnant me and the father of the child is living in the same house. I think i'm in love with my ex we where togheter for 4 years and i think we belong toghter. the father of the child and i is not really happy. i dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2006): Some women when pregnant, are unable to cope with the hormonal changes and as a result you may be suffering from depression.
I would consult a physcian first and foremost.
I think that when you are pregnant it is normal to start to feel uncertaintly with yourself and your life.
You loved your boyfriend enough to be the mother of your and his child. You made a decision that cannot be undone.
The child that is within you needs a loving mother and a loving father in it's life. The child within you needs the both of you together as this will set him up for a success in life. What child does not want and deserve both loving parents together?
I would like to recommend a good book I am currently reading. It is titled " Between Two Worlds" by Elizabeth Marquardt.
It is inspired by many voices of many adults who suffered a loss through divorce. There is a power in the cry of a child.
Were you happy with yourself and with your relationship before you decided to introduce a child into it?
Either way, you both now stand accountable to another life. To be a parent is to sacirfice. To be a parent is to love and desire to do all that you can to ensure your child has everything it needs for furture happiness. I tell you that you two working together and overcoming is this course. You have the chance for happiness.
Not one marriage is perfect. Not one household contains all the answers. Not one household goes without trials to overcome. Not one relationship at one time or another will experience pain, heartache, doubt, issues.
Life is designed for us to succeed and find happiness. Trials and problems are designed to strengthen us and give us wisdom.
You are capable of having happiness with your boyfriend and with your child. Work with what you have and stop denying yourself.
Your EX is an Ex for a reason.
You don't have to despair alone. You don't have to hurt alone. You don't have to face your uncertainties alone nor your fears alone. You have someone at your side.
You will do what is right. You can make things work.
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reader, Genyouwin Thawts +, writes (11 July 2006):
Hello - You don't say how many weeks pregnant you are. If you are unsure of what to do, you must seriously consider 2 things - the future of your unborn baby - do you want to bring them into a world where you are not happy with their father? And the reasons why your 'ex' and yourself broke up. Weigh these things up in your mind - are you hankering back to a relationship where you felt everything was rosy? Was it really or are you just comparing it to your current relationship? Your unborn child - think long and hard about what to do - there are no 'easy' solutions to your predicament - but go with your instinct - I think you know in your heart what you really want, don't you?
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reader, ThePixie +, writes (11 July 2006):
 Ask yourself one thing though. Are you really in love with your ex or are you just pining for somethng that in retrospect looked better because you're unhappy in a relationship you feel a bit trapped in due to the pregnancy? Your current relationship is something you really need to address, as well as your pregnancy. There isn't really an easy answer to something like this, but I do believe a happy mother and father = happy child. If you are definitely having the baby, but definitely know you don't love or want to be with the father, do you think there is any way it could work with sharing the child custody. How does he feel? Does he even want the baby and is he happy about it? Therse are just things you should ask yourself. At the end of the day you need to do what is best for you and your future and that of the child if you choose to have it.Good luck.
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