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writes: helloI am a Indian sikh girl who has been dating a black west Indian for 3 and a half years. We live together and nothing makes me happier then him.My problem is that Ii've just found out I'm pregnant and obviously now have to tell my family. My mum is already aware we are dating and secretly supports us, but it's my extended family that are the problem.Please can you advise how best to tackle the situation?Thank you....Sharon
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2006): [good luck on the baby] bring it up when your at somewhere i dont knoe if thats good advice or not
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (22 April 2005):
 Congratulations on your pregnancy!Do you think that you could enlist the help of your mum to bring the topic up with your other family members? I can imagine that it would be a prickly subject, but if she were to tell them something along the lines of "Did I tell you I recently met Sharon's boyfriend? He's a wonderful man and he makes her so happy! They're expecting a baby soon, in fact...", deflecting attention from the more difficult aspects until the focus is on a new baby... perhaps that would help.If the emphasis is on your happiness and what a jewel your partner is, rather than his origin or religious affiliation, it's bound to soften any feelings on the part of the family who love and care for you.Even if you have to do this yourself, without your mum's help, try to shift the focus to your happiness with him and your delight at finding yourself pregnant to a man you love and want to share your life with. Talk about what a great dad you think he's going to be. When your family eventually do meet your partner, they will doubtless be surprised, but perhaps not so shocked as they would be, since your love for him was the first thing you mentioned.Good luck.
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