A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm 15 years old and I recently just found out I was pregnant. I had all the period symptoms but it just never came so I took a home pregnancy test and it came out positive. It was devastating, I remained calm and tried not to panic.I told my family today, but my boyfriend is yet to tell his parents. they are all upset and disappointed in me but I know they will support me in any decision I make even though they may not agree with it.I know I have two options: Abortion or Adoption. Keeping it is out of the question, I know I am not ready for a baby and could never properly support one either. My boyfriend doesn't have a job.No matter what decision I make it will affect me in some way. My family wants me to get an Abortion because they don't think I will be able to handle the stress of carrying a baby for nine months and then giving it up afterwards.I really don't know what to do. Abortion goes against all my beliefs but I never thought I would be put in this position. I can't win either way.. does anyone have words of wisdom? Advice? experience?XXX thx.
View related questions:
abortion, period, pregnancy test Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): This is a very tough decision to make. I was in your shoes many years ago and my decision was made for me. You have to really think about what you want to do and what you feel you can live with. You have your life ahead of you and if you know you are unable to care for a baby then you need to think if you can give it up for adoption and not feel guilty. Another thing to keep in mind is that you can have an open adoption where you get to have contact with your child. Ultimatly the choice is yours! I know your looking for answers but you have to decide! The great thing is that you have the support of your family. Another thing is that if you are looking to have an abortion you want to do it early in the pregnancy don't wait! The earlier the better both physically, mentally and emotionally. Trust me, I know from experience. I really hope this helps you and good luck!
A
female
reader, Youngmummy  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 i was 13 when i feel pregnant i am now 15 with one and a half year old twins
its the best thing in my life, it has been a realy strugle but i would not have it any other way do not abort but just think it might be your only chance to have a baby you might become infertile belive you and me you manage one way or another do you realy want a kid growing up knowing that he wasnt wanted. could you have another kid in the future knowing u gave one up ?
write an email to me xx
...............................
A
female
reader, Meggs  +, writes (4 August 2009):
Hey,
In a way from expercince this is my answer:
It's a though decsion and your right at your age do NOT keep the baby, and I'm glad abortion is agaisnt your beliefs. Even though your family thinks you should get an abortion, you should not.
An abortion is just like murder no matter what anyone says at all, if you get an abortion you will most likely never forget about the kid. What you NEED and SHOULD do is put the baby up for an adoption, don't keep it, it will just make all life matters worse, and don't have an abortion.
Yes, it will be hard for carying it for 9 months then giving it up, but you know that child will have a better life.
So putting the child up for an adoption is the best and only choice you have and need to do.
~I really hope you do an adoption, please tell me what you choose~
...............................
A
male
reader, greg290352 +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Depending on your family situation and that of your boyfriend one solution would be for either set of parents to help you bring the baby up. A lot depends on the overall financial situation and whether both sets of parents work full time. At least that way you would still be close to your baby and could take ovcr the responsibility as you get older and are in a job.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): All I can offer you, is my advice, as I've not been in your position. You seem like a reasonably sensible girl and It's great that you've got your parents support, whatever you decide -not all parents are like that.As you recognise, whatever decision you make, it will affect you in some way, it's a life altering decision if you choose to adopt, abort OR keep the baby.Abortion or adoption will be a heartbreaking decision, either way. If you go through with the abortion, you will feel terribly guilty because of your beliefs. As you say it's easy to say you're against an abortion until you are in that position. If you go through with the adoption, you may get too emotionally attached during those 9 months. Either way, there is a risk attached, of heartbreak and regret. What decision would be best for you, your boyfriend and the baby? Thinking of what's best for the baby is the most selfless thing to do, as it shouldn't be brought up in an environment where it doesn't have the love, care and stability the baby would need. It's not an easy decision and I don't think there is a 'right' decision, only you and your boyfriend can decide what is best. I think you should talk to your boyfriend after he tells his parents, and talk properly, about all of the outcomes. How you're both likely to feel, how it might affect your future, and most importantly what is best for the baby. Good luck and take care
...............................
|
