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writes:I am pregnant and so excited about it but my best friend isn't really happy for me and keeps saying all the wrong things time after time.I've told her I don't need her input but she just won't shut up.The worst thing is she thinks she is my only best friend but I have other friends as well who say everything in a way that makes me feel happy.She just won't back off and leave me to it.What is wrong with me that she doesn't understand that I don't want her help?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (12 December 2018):
 If it’s because of your age and unstable life situation (again, just a natural age thing), then I don’t blame her for not being over the moon. That said, if it’s not that, then it’s none of her business. Even if it is about age, you’ll just have to politely tell her you understand, but don’t want to hear it any more. Not everyone will be happy about someone they care about becoming a parent so young, so you need to be okay with that. At the same time, you also need to reduce contact with people who will keep being negative.
For what it’s worth, you rarely learn from people who agree with you, so don’t alienate people who may end up being the voice of reason when you feel lost and others are just telling you what you want to hear.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 December 2018):
 Maybe just tell her you need some space from her negativity?
The last thing you need right now is stress.
While I can see why she might be a little disappointed in you getting pregnant so young, unwed and probably not in any kind of career-path, it's YOUR life, your choice and YOU are the one who has to live with the choices you have made so far. For the rest of your life.
What exactly is is saying to you?
You have to realize OP, not everyone is going to think it's a great idea. And not everyone is going to tell you what you want to hear.
BUT, with that said, tell her you have heard her opinions and what she feels and thinks (if that is what she is venting at you) and that you don't want negative people around you, that you need supportive people. If she can't catch THAT hint, put her on mute a few days, see if that helps.
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