A
male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Right, I'll get straight to the point, I've known this girl for a number of years and as time's gone on we've got closer and closer, I like her, she likes me, I know this because we've told eachother, one problem, she has a fella, we both have feelings for each other and we believe we could be very happy together, and this isn't just a phase, we've felt like this for some time now and the 14th being valentines night I turned on the charm like an idiot and we both kissed and I basically stopped us taking it further, realising it could be a mistake, but I'm positive shes 'the one' and I don't to what to do! On one hand I don't want her to split up with her fella and jeapardise their relationship and on the other I'm thinking sod that we know that we could have something special and be very happy together and I'm unsure what steps to take next.Any decent help would be great.
View related questions:
split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): I was in exactly the same situation as you are, two months ago. I guess you could say I withdrew, because I wouldn't have been able to deal with the guilt. She did break up with her bf, but when we met to talk about where to go from there, we decided best to stay friends for now. Cus she had alot of history and it was probably better for her to work out that before involving herself with me. I guess this still doesn't answer your dilema, but this is one path it could take. If I wasn't so 'gentlemen like' i could have persued something with her, but that could have led to a short relationship. Still there is a possibility for something in the future.Good luck with yours.
A
female
reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 If you don't want to jeopardize her relationship with that man , then you should have withdrawn.
Your actions do not match your words.
You have to decide which course of action to take.
If you want her, go all out for it.
If you want to be a gentleman then withdraw.
...............................
|
