| A
male
,
anonymous
writes: ok i am dusgusting i did something so bad its eating me up inside. i have a great gf and ilove her so much, but i cheated! i never thought about it but when i was out my "best friend" slept round my house with 2 other people and we ended up cheating. i dont no why, i feel physically sick my girlfriend deserves better. i need to no what to do because i dont no wether to tell her and hurt her or keep it to myself and never see my friend again (thats a definate really) abother thing i went to see my friend and she asked me if it was just a one of or if wed do it again , i obviously said never again. but now i hate myself because i love her so much i never thought i would do something like this, it feels like a dream. please help what should i do for her. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, queenie  +, writes (22 January 2007):
I suggest that if you are sincere enough and will never do this again, take it as a lesson learnt or you may loose your girlfriend. If my other half told me he had cheated on me i would certianly leave him even if he said he wouldnt do it again. Good luck!
A
female
reader, trausis04 +, writes (14 November 2006):
your girlfriend has a right to know. you really owe it to her to tell her. i'm sure it will be hard and she will be crushed, but if you don't tell her and she finds out later things will be really bad! if you were not severly impaired (alcohol/drugs) and were able to follow through with cheating on your girlfriend, you honestly must not love her as much as you think you do. if things don't work out just keep in mind that cheaters never win, and winners never cheat. good luck
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): Telling her may end this relationship and then again, if she loves you, maybe she'll forgive. Who knows? What do you think she'll do? But I have to ask, where was these feeling s of respect and love for your gf when you were cheating? A mature, devoted real love does not come with an on/off switch. If you did truly "love" your gf and want whats best for her you will know that she deserves a heck of a lot better than someone who betrayed her like this. Basically, hun, you didnt love her enough to be faithful and committed to her. Tell her and let her decide if she wants to stay or go.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): you seem really guilty... how on earth did it happen if you love your girlfriend so much?? some things are better left unsaid. but honesty is also the best policy, its a difficult decision and i think you need to take a little space to think about it xxx
...............................
A
male
reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (13 November 2006):
 I don't know what's the best answer in this case. I cheated and confessed. It broke my ex's heart. She is still hurt almost a year later. I sometimes wish I hadn't but at the same time I know that holding that in would have eaten me alive because I do love her very much and still do. I took everything she dished out and some!!! You have to know that if you do tell her things would never be the same for awhile or if ever and if you don't you may end up going insane holding it in. My advice to you is find an outlet and think about it. You know her better than anyone else her and you know what makes her tick. You will get a lot of negativity on this site because the women here hate cheaters. Just know that being a man means you have to sometimes do what you don't want to for the betterment of the ones you love. Good Luck because you have just started a long journey of healing.
...............................
A
female
reader, creamepie +, writes (13 November 2006):
Confession is good for the soul.And take what ever she dishes cause you decerve it.
...............................
|
