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writes:Though i've overcome my break-up, i always feel very guilty of myself.For things which i committed during my relationship, may be i was too tempted. But now its like i feel like there's no one who loves me. i don't want a new relationship also, i know I'm very young but still ..times when I'm sad i want someone to cling to but nowadays i feel it so difficult. I feel like i'll never be loved by any1..sometimes i feel i want my love back..i accept that i was equally responsible for my breakup. Is it that I'll never find love? will there be a time when I'll be loved by someone..will there be any love in my life??I'm passing through a very difficult mode in life...people plz suggest something!! Reply to this Question
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reader, crazy_in_luv  +, writes (3 July 2008):
hey swthrt!
first of all plzz stop crying which i m sure u r..
and trust me..when i was ur age,i had amajor crush on a guy n after a yr we broke it off cuz it wasnt working well..
i felt unloved too but i went out with my friends,concentrated on my studies n what i loved doing...and after a while...i stopped even thinking of him...then i met HIM..the guy who fell in luv with me..for me.its been 3 yrs and still feels like yday..
this is a true story...u've got ur entire life ahead of u...dont try to find ne1 yet..he'll find u..for sure.
njoy life!!ur family,ur friends,they all luv u a lot
so..cheer up,have some ice cream and get back to living ur life,ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): You are still young. Really young, so why are you giving up on love so easily? For ONE break-up? Sure, it may have been hard and you still feel bad about it, but giving up so easily? There are 6 billion people out there. 6 billion. So why you will you not find someone who's perfect for you? And you have so much advantage since you're so young. It's not like on your deathbed, or that you're in advanced age. You're STILL a teenager, a young teenager.
So really, don't think so negatively. I'm pretty sure there is someone who loves you unconditionally, like, well, your parents? A really great friend? Even a sibling who gives you trouble will love you unconditionally. So why are you hard head on on finding that kind of love somewhere else and when you can't find it feel unloved? or that you're destined to suffer? Please, be realistic.
Also, if you want love and someone to love you back, don't descriminate. Look at the ugly guys, at the nerds, at the ones who are shy and quiet. Look at other races, other guys with religions, I don't know, but look everywhere. But this doesn't mean you should jump into a relationship soon. Take your time to know people and make wise decisions. Respect yourself and your body. Think ahead.
So I could have said "There are a lot of fish out in the sea" or that "you will find love, eventually". But I decided on a rant to clarify your own view. I don't know if this is harsh or brutally honest, but it is an honest answer from me. Heed it if you want and if it doesn't make you feel better, it's still a good piece of information.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): I understand how you feel i've been through the same sort of thing, i felt guilty about what i'd done in my relationship and i was not much younger that you when it happened I thought no one loved me but then after a while i was asked out twice in 2weeks, besides your quite young and have got loads of your life ahead of you and you will have loads of boyfriends to come and like you said you don't want a new relationship, just focus on friendship right now you never know what it might lead to. As for wanting your love back, remember things happen for a reason or maybe you just weren't ready for a relationship
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