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male
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30-35,
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writes:I think that my life's falling apart, and I could use some advice.I've just left high school, and I've been finding it difficult coming to terms with having to get a job, and the prospect of uni in the future. But that's not the main problem.My entire social circle, (which is small, but that's irrelevant) seems to be breaking apart. And it's not merely leaving-school falling apart.My best friend from high school has been increasingly quiet with me online, to the extent that he only answers direct questions now. I bring up the subject of going out every now and again, but he seems like he doesn't want to much anymore. Recently, I asked him and he said he couldn't be bothered at all and that he now finds it boring. I pointed out that I'm putting work in to try and stay in contact with them all and nobody seems to care. He said they all have to find jobs, but I know for a fact that he hasn't been trying to at all, so I told him that and he promptly blocked me from MSN.Then there's my girlfriend. All was going fine until one night when I was in a badish mood and didn't talk too much whilst at the cinema with her and some other friends. She dropped the "x" from the end of my text messages, she replaced "sweet dreams" with "night" and she talked a lot less and was quite moody and angry with me all the time. Now she's started a new school, and she is hanging around with someone she fancied before going out with me, and she seems to be with him quite a lot. She also told me there's this "nice boy in her english class" that she likes, but only in the context of as a friend. But it all seems suspicious. She's also far more reluctant to go out now.I may be paranoid, but I think they're all getting ready to ditch me. Am I being paranoid or is there more to this? The main problem is the girlfriend
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 Hi
I think you are being paranoid. You life is not falling apart. What you are struggling with is not keeping up with your friends and girlfriend, its keeping up with the change you are faced with in your life. Accept that things have changed and you are moving into a new level. I don’t know where my bestfriend I had in grade 3-8 is right now or what she is doing. I heard a rumour she is married she didn’t even invite me to her wedding because after the last two years of high school we became apart mind you we were not in the same school but we stayed in the same neighbourhood so we went to different unis so we grew apart whenever the was change so I think is the same path you and your friend are going. Do you know the saying people come to our life for a reason, a season and a life time? Maybe its time for his departure. He will not say goodbye because he also doesn’t know its time for him to leave. It will be painful for you to let go but believe me it will come to a point you will not even bother. So take it easy and stop worrying too much, learn to make new friends so that you don’t feel alone when old ones leave.
As for your girlfriend I think you need to tell her how you feel, and if is the other guy she wants she better tell you and stop wasting your time.
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