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writes: I am hoping someone could help with this. I have been on a online dating service for about four months now. My boyfriend left me about a year ago and I am trying to get back into the swing of things. I have met two of these guys face to face and both seemed like nice guys but neither got back to me. My friends have told me not to take it personally and not to take online dating too seriously. I was wondering if I might be sending out bad vibes because of the past rejection or if it could be that neither of these guys was right for me anyway. Any thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cupid243 +, writes (17 November 2006):
They just didn't like you which means they're not the ones for you. When you meet the person that you are meant to be with, it will be mutual. Stop worrying about the rejects and focus on the future. You're not meant to be with everyone that you meet. Besides, you have to kiss a lot of toads before you get to your prince. That's an important journey in finding and appreciating the person that you're meant to be with.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): The book I mentioned is by Dr. Warren (founder of the dating website eharmony) and is called "How to Know If Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less."
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): There are many reasons why they didn't get back to you. They might be busy. They might have been nice enough to have coffee or dinner with when you met them, but maybe there was no chemistry - you were not really attracted to them, or vice versa. Maybe you didn't have similar interests in common. Perhaps either you, or one of them, was shy and it was hard to keep a conversation going. Maybe they were dating other women. You see, the reasons are endless.
You could think about your sense of how the evening went when you were with them and see if anything comes to mind.
Otherwise, I'd say just keep looking and be aware of what qualities you want in another relationship and what you don't want.....there is a book by the founder of eharmony on how to know whether someone is worth pursuing in two dates or less.....I think that's the title. You might want to look for it.
Good luck!
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