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writes: Hi there.. okay this is a little embarrasing.I've had a few sexual relationships... and i dont think they have ever released anythin... does this mean im doing something wrong.Recently we didnt use protection but im on the pill and he said to me after "i didnt ask you if you have protection because i didnt pull out totally if you get my drift". I dont... and im so embarrassed!Please help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006):
I dont get the drift either. His statement doesnt really make much sense.
And you seem way too out of it to be having sex, frankly. You are not sure if any of your partners have ever cum? What? Whats been going on there?
Being on the pill will not protect you emotionally, it wont protect you from disease; and it wont protect you from weirdos ejaculating into you (maybe) and making cryptic remarks.
I get the feeling that because you are on the pill you felt that you could skip a bunch of steps and rush into intercourse. You need to start slowly and built emotional intimacy and trust first. When you are ready with a real partner, none of this will be embarassing.
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reader, cetateanu +, writes (10 November 2006):
well , he was reffering to ejacullating obviously .
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2006): I don't catch his drift either, to be honest.
If you have sex without something that protects against sexually transmitted diseases (ie: condoms) then both of you can pass on a sexually transmitted disease. This has nothing to do with whether or not he ejaculates, or if he didn't pull out. And also, if he or you thinks you can't get pregnant by him pulling out, or not ejactulating, then you are wrong - is that what he meant? A man releases small amounts of sperm when they are turned on, and this happens throughout sex - so there is always a chance of pregnancy.
Only have sex with a guy without a condom if you are absolutely sure they don't have any sexual transmitted diseases. Remember that some people don't even realise they have any, so, if he has slept with anyone else, it is probably best to get them to check themselves out at a sexual health clinic first.
In reply to your first question, no you are not doing any thing wrong if a man does not ejaculate, but it does indicate some kind of problem.
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