A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Commitment issues with no commitment? I met this great guy, neither of us are looking for a long-term commitment and we have great chemistry and amazing sex and we have had open talks about it not being a serious thing. BUT he seems to always freak out/take 5 days to text me after meeting up and then he apologises and says that he needed to 'pull back'. He often brings up that he doesn't have time for a girlfriend and i'm fine with this. I just wanna meet up every couple weeks for sex! What's the problem?
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2017): Judgedick has nailed it.
A
male
reader, N91 +, writes (15 August 2017):
 I don't think he's on the same wavelength as you are.
If he was, he wouldn't need to keep 'pulling back'. I think he is going to get attached to you, I wouldn't recommend keep going down this road with him.
...............................
A
female
reader, Dionee'  +, writes (15 August 2017):
 I think maybe he is trying to convince himself that he's on the same page as you when he really isn't hence the time to 'pull back'. He's trying to prevent himself from falling further into what he thinks he already has fallen into some feelings over.
I'm all for women doing what they need to do to be fulfilled either career wise or sexually and as long as the two of you are on the same page, casual sex shouldn't be a problem at all but as I've already mentioned, that might not be the case with this guy.
As you know, with casual relationships comes the need to be responsible with your health like preventing yourself from falling pregnant or catching any STD's so please just be conscious of your health.
Maybe talk to this guy a bit more and figure out where he is without psyching him out.
If the two of you are not on the same page then you may have to kiss the amazing sex goodbye.
...............................
A
male
reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (14 August 2017):
As long as your are taking precautions against pregnancy and disease, I am fine with your FWB relationship. But I don't understand this guy telling you that he needs to "pull back." Hey, it's a FWB deal for god's sake...what's this bunk about he has to "pull back"? I think he may feel that he's taking advantage of you and at least owes you more frequent communication.
I'd call or write this guy and tell him, "This is a FWB relationship. Start treating it like one and stop acting a sissy, telling me that you must pull back. Make up your mind!" If he can't deal with this, he's the wrong guy for you, as long as you want to be free of commitment.
...............................
A
male
reader, judgedick  +, writes (14 August 2017):
 YOU THINK OF HIM AS A SEX FRIEND he thinks of you as more, feels as if he can't let his feelings get too strong,
I often find sex friends ends with one getting hurt no matter how people say they can do it and not want more
...............................
|
