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writes: I used to find girls attractive or at least pretty, now they just dont do it for me ...I'm completely besotted with attractive guys. I can no longer get an errection over a woman, I recognise they are pretty but ...when it comes to guys, I'm hard straight away and lust after them, longing for their touch. I dont even notice woman in the street anymore - but I'm always checking out hot guys: whats happening to me - have I turned gay?Has anyone else had this experience or know of anyone who has?Has anyone else had this experience?I'm ok with gays but feel confused?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Your post speaks for itself.
Girls don't do it for you. Guys do.
Girls don't get you hard and set you palpitating with lust. Guys do.
You don't check out girls in the street. You melt for men.
To answer your question, yes, lots of guys have had this experience. We're called gays.
'I'm ok with gays but feel confused??'...relax, it's beautiful. You are one. Embrace it. Nothing at all to feel bad about.
Please, don't torment yourself by repressing it or feeling as if you have a moral/societal duty to not go ahead with it. Be what you are. I guarantee you it's worth it, you'll feel so much better living honestly and true to your sexuality, and the rewards are massive in every sense.
Best of luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Mikes is right , no one can tell you your sexuality over the internet or anywhere else for that matter. On the other hand, judging by what you've said, you clearly have a deeper interest in men than women on a sexual level considering the fact that you get an erection over them and lust for them. Just to worry about it, feelings are feelings and the best you can do is go with them. And if they lead you to a gay, straight or bi nature then so be it. JUST FOLLOW YOUR FEELINGS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): At your age its still so easy to become confused about sexuality. It sounds like you may be gay, but it could just be that you are going through a stage in life where you are unsure about things, and want to experience things and explore. either way, there is nothing wrong with being gay. if you find yourself liking guys, or a certain guy in particular, then go with it and see what happens. Give yourself some time to think about what you want but at the same time, try not to think into to it too much? i know that sounds weird but just dont overthink the situation, because it will become more confusing for you. If you do come to the conclusion that you are gay, dont hide away from it. My very good friend came out that he was gay when we were back in school, a long time ago but i still remember it. He denied it for months and even though most people never knew what was going on, they could tell he was going through something emotional. He changed, became depressed, would want to be alone all of the time, all because he was gay? He felt like he was strange and it wasnt worth it, because he was a lovely guy. There is nothing wrong with it, and you have to rise above caring what other people think. All im saying is dont be indenial if you truely want to work out how you feel. AAJ.
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reader, Mikes +, writes (28 August 2009):
 I think most gay people have this experience all the time, but that doesnt mean that you are gay. Maybee bisexual, maybee strait and just confused. No one can difine what sexuality you are over the computer, so dont let them. If your liking guys now, then go with that, if you dont like girls still in say 6 months, then theres a chance you are gay, and there really is nothing wrong with that.
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