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female
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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Ok,i'm in love with my 'best friend'. She's my best friend but i'm pretty sure i'm not hers. I'm obsessed with her. I met her three years ago but we've only been actual friends for a few months. It feel like I've known her forever though. I remember everything she says.. a few weeks ago I mentioned how I always wanted an older sister and she quite clearly hinted she could be my older sister but I only rolled my eyes- I didn't know what else to do. I know I'm obsessed with her and it's not healthy. I'm always thinking about her. Not a second in the day can I think about anything else. I've looked her up online, facebook, twitter. Everywhere. I've looked her family up too. I have never been the clingy type but she is the exception. She has no idea that I love her since I act emotionless and conserved most of the time (because I have too, i'll explain in a sec). We email each other and since she's really busy it usually takes a few hours for her to respond, sometimes a few days. I check my email every ten minutes and when I find she hasn't responded I just cry. I tell her stuff I never thought of telling anyone ever and I often dream about her.Now here is the sick twisted part. She is 46 and I am 14. She has a husband and two kids. But wait there's more...She is my 8th grade English teacher.I know everyone thinks that I cannot truly love anyone at this age but I've never felt like this before and it's killing me every second she's not here. We eat lunch together everyday. She recently asked the principal if we could go to a ball game together but he said we would have to get parental permission. Which is impossible since my mother is a *****. So we are currently waiting till I am technically not her student anymore.Lastly, I don't want to be in a relationship with her. I love her like a sister. This is not living though. I feel like she takes my breath when she leaves me and I can only breath when I am with her. I am obsessed and I need help. I'm all alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): Wow, this is serious, doll!Having a crush on your teacher is normal but this is beyond normal, hun. My advice, stop sitting with her at lunch, don't go out with her, stop stalking her, it's not right, you're too young, she's married with children and whether you realise it or not, you could get her into some serious trouble with your behaviour. I understand you can't help it, but you're gonna cause more problems for her if this doesn't stop. You're not alone, surely you have friends? Have you spoken to your parents about this? Don't disrespect your mum, we all have problems with our parents but you should never disrespect them no matter what you think and feel. Your mum loves you at the end of the day and she will stand by you, she tries to do the best thing for you and it might not be what you want, you're a kid, she's an adult, she's been there, done it, got the t-shirt, she wants you to make the right choices and right now I think talking to her might help. If you're desperate not to talk to her, talk to a counsellor at school or something. Your teacher needs to be aware of this obsession so that she knows to back off because without realising it, she's making the situation worse. Just stop thinking about her, it's hard but force yourself to stop, you can't live following this woman around and trying to find her and her family. It's essentially stalking and could land you in serious trouble.
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