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writes:Hello everyone, I really need help. Im...im suffering from obsessive love and I need to know where I can get easy and simple financial help, along with some advice. Here is my situation, I have fallen in an obsession with an 18 year old women( and i've been obsessed with her for 4 years) but all the previous relations i've been in I have also been obsessive. I have just come to my realization that I am obsessed though and I know for a fact. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank for your help everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know im 'obsessed' because I fantasize ALL the time about this person and when im in a relationship I ALLWAYS think within the first two weeks that we belong together forever(and I also show all the signs of obsessive love according to my readings). I cant seem to rate with my mobile but thank you for the answers everyone. Anyway, I have infact had problems as an child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Sounds like you have probably suffered from abondonment issues, neglect and emotional abuse in your past, probably in your home life. Unhealthy home lives and family dynamics can lead to unhealthy views of one's self and of relationships. I came from an emotionally abusive home (well more specifically an abusive mother) and I had alot of relationship problems in my early teen years and most of my twenties. You need to find balance in your life so that you stop obsessing. But I understand that this is going to be quite a struggle, especially at first, but it has to be done for your own sake and happiness. You need to understand that your "obsessiveness" is just a SYMPTOM of your problem. Like a bad cough, or a sore throat is a symptom of the flu. If you get rid of the flu, you get rid of the cough. You need to relive your issues, face them head on, in order to heal from the pain. That is the only way to heal from your obsessiveness. You may need the help of a therapist, a mentor, a good friend. Somebody that you can talk to who can help you through these issues. You may need anti depressants. I would recommend B vitamins and Fish oils. They are generally excellent for mental health. And get regular exercise. Exercise releases endorphins which make you calm and happy. But these are just little complementary aids. But the single most important thing is to work through your issues so you can begin to heal. Obsessiveness is a horrible quality and it is going to bring you NOTHING good and a life full of negativity. Know that there IS a different type of life out there, one that is not obsessive, but you can live CALMLY, you can react rationally (not impulsively) to situations, where you can be happy, where you can find balance and peace and your life will be amazing. The only requirement is that you get help and work through these issues. I know its hard to take that first step because your obsessive personality sucks you in so powerfully but you have to fight it and DO IT.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 For honest financial advise, try a Credit Union-non profit organization whose purpose it is to help you with finances. As for you obsessive loves, first off, how are you so sure they are "obsessive"? Thats a strong word! Honestly, maybe you're just experiencing some intense feelings-it happens. People who truly are obsessive often don't realize it. But, if you'd like to stop being so intense, keep yourself busy, don't let your mind wander towards the girl too much. Surround yourself with good friends and get yourself distracted. But, if this persists and you're uncomfortable with it, talk to a spiritual adviser like a priest or a counselor-and no, don't think that makes you "crazy" it doesn't. People go these guides all the time for things as simple as: how to impress a girl or what to do on birthdays :p I would know, my uncle's a counselor. Best of luck! Hope this helps a little.
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