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writes: I am in love with a guy who I have known all my life, for the past two years we had a great relationship, but never made anything official. When I finally said I'm tired of hiding, he said he's not ready to go public yet and he cares alot about me but if I want to move on I must move on. But then he didn't stop contacting me, and after a while he told me he doesn't want a girlfriend he wants a wife, but he cant trust me. The thing is he is very hard-headed and extremely jealous, so whenever I'm not with him or around him, he thinks I'm with other guys or doing something I'm not supposed to. The truth is, I love him very much, and I have never even looked at another guy since we started to have a relationship, and I tried telling him a hundred times that I only have eyes for him, but its as if he made up his mind about me. And to try and convince him is futile. He then stopped calling but still sent text messages daily (down to 2 from 30). Eventually I became more and more insecure, and I started to have the one emotional outburst after the other (This is not like me) I'm usually very calm and collected. And normally handle conflict differently. The thing is, I think I'm scared of losing him, I always believed that I don't need a man to be happy, and for some reason I now think that I might be needing this one, and its freaking me out. We had a fight last week, because I found out he wasn't completely honest with me about where he was. I ended up accusing him of lying, and he told me to believe whatever I wanted. He then phoned, and for some stupid reason I faked crying and when he told me to stop it!! I slammed the phone down in his ear. Its now 4 days and havent heard a thing. I dont know if I should be making the first move, he was dishonest, and I'm not prepared to make a fool of myself if he doesn't still feel about me the way he did. What should I do? (wrote this in 3 minutes, please excuse spelling)
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (1 October 2007):
If he doesn't trust you, why do you waste your time on him.
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reader, CynthiaRenae +, writes (1 October 2007):
Oh sister! It's obvious he's not as into you as you are him. Fake crying!! Really? Don't lower yourself. Please!! This guy is a jerk for leading you on for 2 years. If he was really into you, he would have come out of hiding a long long time ago. You need to move on and find a guy that really loves you and will take care of you. Why are you torturing yourself. He's the jerk. You did nothing wrong but let yourself be dragged around by this guy. Forget about him. When a guy really really likes a girl he would do anything for her. But this guy is just keeping you around cause he knows he can. Lose him, NOW! Before it gets worse.
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