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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I honestly don't know where to begin this and I'm not even sure what is wrong with me. So help me out to figure out if I like this guy, but don't trust?, I simply lost interests in him?, or I'm getting clingy?I am going out with this guy for exactly three months now. He broke up with me once because, according to him, he had "confusion" in his life, but we got back together now.Our relationship is more mature than ther couples in my age. We always put our prioties in academics first and discuss philosophies or government issues. For instance, when we see each other on the hallway, we just say hi and pass by, unlike a boyfriend walking his girlfriend to the class.Since I kind of see our relationship as shortcoming, I have no problems with that or whatsoever. I don't really text/talk/snuggle around him as much as other girlfriends do so in their relationships. (I mean, it does not mean that we don't hang at all. We have had quite intimate times together as well.)I personally think I am a cool girlfriend since I am friends with all of his ex-girlfriends, I am okay with him being friends with one of his ex-girlfriends.But then, like today (TODAY is actually our anniversary, but I forgot about it lol), I suddenly got irritated when he did not even say bye to me after class and walked away from me just to talk to his ex-girlfriend. I know that it's a small thing, but it just annoys me so mcuh!And when he talked about our future, I honestly kinda couldn't trust him at all and I kinda freaked out too. I felt like he's just saying it becuase he thinks I want him to say thoese kinda sweet words. IDK, maybe these kind of jealousy and unfaithfulness started after we got back together since the breakup.It's really ironic because I always say to myself that this relationship is only shortcoming, but then I get annoyed when he walked away from me and talked to his ex-grifriend.Also, if I ask him for more attention, then I feel like I get clingy around him, which I do not want at all. And at the same time, I want him to devote his time to me more and focus his lifestyle around me sometimes. I never said these to my boyfriend because I'm kinda afraid if he's going to break up with me then. actually you know what, I concern if he's going to break up with me again many times.I keep babbling right now and I don't know what's wrong with me! Do I not like him anymore? or Do I just get clingy right now? What should I do? Should I talk to him?
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reader, truelove  +, writes (6 February 2009):
talk to him matey tell him how you feel. it doesnt sound like your clingy but you say your in a relationship however it sounds to me like its more of a casual thing! tell him exactly what you want and if he does brake up with you then hes not worth it!!! just tell him you want to spend a bit more time with him and also for you to to actually stat acting like a bit more of a couple, you never know he might want the same but dont want to sound clingy or he might not relise hes doing it. also it could be hes 'confused' again if this is the case get rid you shouldnt be feeling like this after only 3 months together!! take care hun and do whats best for you dont ever come 2nd best to anyone!! xxx
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