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writes:I'm 19 and I have been with my fiance 3 years. He lived in Lincoln and moved here about 3 and half years ago. When i first met him he was into drugs and drinking every night. I dispise drugs, but i gave it ago. We became close and he stopped doing drugs but he was very immature. In 3 years i have put 3 stone on and he has put bout 3-4 stone on. We split up twice in the first 3 months but only for a couple of days, his mum said it broke his heart. He lived with his sister and his friend but 2 years ago he moved in with me and my mum. And a year and a half ago we got engaged. He had a rubbish childhood and he got mad at the smallest thing (but he never hurt me)He had a few mental problems, he was ment to see a councillor but never went. Everything was perfect but in the last 3-4 months he has been moody and we haven't been showing each other much love. On Friday he rung me while he was at work and everything was normal, but 2 hours later he rung and said "i dont wanna hurt you and i dont wanna split from you just think i need a couple of weeks away to sort my head out cos if i dont i will end up killing myself or going to prison". I was heartbroken but he came home to pick up a few belongings that he needed. But when he came here my mum rung and said get him out of the house so he said he would take all his things. We talked and he said he still loves me and he didnt wanna split up but his head was a mess and until he sorted himself out we couldn't sort our relationship out. He told me he wasnt taking his phone and that he will get in touch with me when he is ready. He ended up staying that night and he cuddled and kissed me and told me e loved me it was better then it has been for ages. I had to get up early Sat morning to pick my mum up from hol. He told me he was still going and that he would be here when i got back he kissed and cuddled me and told me he loved me and still wanted to be with me. But he wasnt here when i got back and he left his phone here. I think he is at his mums but she wouldnt tell me much and she said as well maybe its because he wanted us to get our own house which i knew he did but i just wasnt ready. Then she rung me back to tell me that he was ok and that she would take it as we were over but she cant say for definate cos she doesnt know. Its been 2 days and i still havent heard nothing but he hasnt said its over i just dont understand and i dont no what to do until he explains properly i cant move on. I have had other boyfriends but i have never loved anyone like i love him.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (15 October 2007):
You are in love with a loser. You can love a good guy just as much. Dump the bf and get on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): I personally think you are much too young to be putting up with this cr*p! He went without his phone, so what? If he did go back to his family, then let him stay there. Do not run after him, if he is away to clear his head, then let him bloody well stay there. Get a grip, why are you running after him? You have never loved anyone like him, well you are young and you will love again, a better and deeper relationship than this one. This is a joke and well you know it. Do not go running after him. If he comes back then it is up to you whether you take him back, but personally i wouldnt even open the door.
take care
xxx
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