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writes:Ok, here is my problem. I really like this one girl, but the problem is that I'm pretty sure she has a boyfriend. I'm not absolutely positive, I've also felt as if she has been giving me mixed signals. I'm beside myself. I think the world of her but I don't know what to do. I'm 16 and I've had very... unpleasant experiences with dating. I'm also a bit of an oddball so it's difficult for me to talk about this stuff. I tried asking my friends if they knew anything at all about her, but none of the people I really trust do. Any advice for this situation? Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Try talking to her as a friend and try not to be too hung up on wanting to date her. You obviously have a crush on her but i'm guessing that you haven't spoken to her much, so you don't really know her. I'm also convinced that she is aware of your crush- hence the mixed signals she is giving off! You need to relax, get talking and only then will you discover if it's more than just a physical attraction. With regards to her having a boyfriend or not-you could try asking her perfectly innocent but probing questions such as 'what you up to this weekend?' If she has a boyfriend then it is likely that he will come up in the conversation. You need to relax and be positive in your approach and if it's meant to be then...if not then there are plenty more fish in the sea. Good Luck!
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reader, Obsolete +, writes (5 May 2008):
Try to get to know her, you can't build a relationship from the background no matter what and if you like her, you might as well make her a friend if not more. Also, when you are with her, make sure she see's the best of you. Don't force it, but when you're with her, focus on having fun, not impressing her. The most important part of the term girlfriend, is friend.
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