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writes:I'm 20 and am currently liking someone who I work with. I've worked there for about 3 months, and the man involved is 18. I have always had a crush on him since I started but he only started noticing that I liked him about 3 weeks ago when we flirted at work. Two things have happened since then. He invited me over to watch a dvd and have a drink at his friend's house. I went and ended up stopping over, he didn't try anything we just kissed and cuddled. Then last weekend I went around town with a friend and I met him up with him and we spent the whole time together in a club. I was supposed to have been stopping at my friend's house that night but she had met someone and asked if it was okay if she went home. I said that was fine and my friend cheekly asked the man I'm interested in if it was okay if I stopped at his (she is friends with him aswell as me). I said to him that was abit cheeky of her and he was like its up to you.On the way home he told me I was the first girl he'd ever taken home when his parents were in. Again he just kissed and cuddled me. I'm looking on people's opinions and advice on this situation, as I don't have a clue what's going on as he's really laid-back and hasn't asked me out or anything. Maybe I'm going too fast though? I just want something to happen!. His only relationship he was in was for 2year and the girl cheated on him by sleeping with two his friends, so I'm thinking that might be another reason why nothing is happening?. How do you think I should behave/act with him? He's the first man I've been properly interested in for ages! And I don't want to ruin anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): If a guy is interested in pursuing a relationship with you he will ask you on a date. Just by the way it started it sounds like he will be a wonderful booty call. However, if you're looking for something more substaintial, like a relationship I think you might want to keep your options open. If you feel very strongly about wanting to be in a relationship with him, wait for a moment you feel comfortable and let him know how you feel. But don't be too pushy, remember you work with him and you don't want to create a situation that makes both of you feel awkward around each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): It sounds like he's just too shy/insecure to initiate any date. Plus, since you're 2 years older, he might be a bit intimidated. He definitely must like you since you've been 'cuddling and kissing,' so I think this is one situation where it's ok for you to ask him out. Be the aggressor.
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