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41-50,
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writes:Ok, i will be the first to admit I am a BIG TEASE! I love the attention I get from men. Guys at my work flirt endlessley with me, and I LOVE IT. I flirt back all the time but it's kinda a big game for me, I really just love the attention, i have no intention of having any type of relationships with these men. I always check the schedule ahead to see who is working with me the next day, so that I will know what to wear and how to wear my hair ( some guys like my hair down, others like it up, and one in partucular is just crazy when I wear it in curls) I purposely love stealing the attention away when i notice one of the guys talking to another girl ( who are all my friends) at work, all I have to do is walk up and say almost anything to him and immeditely the attention is on me. I don't think they give me the attention in hopes to get in my pants cause i never really give them that impression, they act as if they are just blown away by my looks, charm and quick witt (not bragging or anything) Is something wrong with me cause I thrive on the attention of men? I am getting to my real question. I think I may have gotten myself in trouble, cause I may have flirted a little too much with this guy cause he got my number out of the office and has been calling me. he is very good looking but i want absolutely nothing to do with him "in that way". but I can't bring myself to tell him that. whenever he asks me out i just make up a reason that i can't go, like I don't have a babysitter, one time i even told him i was in court! i basically just lead him on cause i don't know how to say leave me alone, cause we work together and i know he would be mad if I told him to leave me alone cause i was only leading him on, So what should I say? and by the way I am single, I have not found the right man for me yet, so my flirting is within it's rights
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reader, dizzie  +, writes (22 July 2008):
i agree whole hearted with lotus. boy have you got some stick to come now, not only will you have to admit to every bloke in there that it was a bit of fun but if you dont do it the other bloke will do it for you. you have acted in away that men respond to so now its time that you respond to that man and tell him the truth. and believe me all the girls in there will love it and all the guys will cut you dead from now on (good looking with great up down or curly hair ) you wont stand a chance any more. you dug the hole i suggest you come clean before you end up 6 foot under
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (22 July 2008):
 Hehehehe, you are bummed now because all those efforts to grab attention from guys has paid off? Honestly, you have to understand that when you put off the vibe, they will catch on. Teasing isnt nice when it isnt used in moderation. Do you ever ask yourself who YOU really are, deep inside? You spend a whole lotta effort being someone THEY want, but what about YOU? What happens when you no longer have that attention, they figure you out (that you are a tease) and you have burned all the bridges with people you have to be around everyday? What will be left of you? No hair do in the world will make you feel loved at that point, trust me. At a bar, or club, or party, that kind of energy is almost expected, and whats great about it is when it's over, you get to go home, and choose wether or not you see those people again, but not at work. Eventually, the energy at work will become uncomfertable because of that kind of mantality. I don't mean to be so rude and blunt, but it's true. Of course that attention is fun, but to live and breathe it is just self centered and inconsiderate. All those times the other girls were connecting with the guys and you stole their attention, you could have very well killed the chance for that girl to have a relationship with that guy, and for what? NOTHING...
So now to your perdicament, maybe it's time to face reality and tell this guy who you really are. A tease. You never had any intention on actually being with him, and appologize for putting off the wrong signals. Tell him you only wanted the attention. Don't string him along and flirt with him, or anyone else that you are not actually intrested in, because it will come back and bite you. Learn from this, and try harder to just be yourself and not some "hot tease" at work.
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