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*reamerr55
writes:Hey everyone!I recently went on a date with this girl, who I've been pursuing for like 6 weeks.She and I have an extraordinary amount in common, from musical taste, sense of humor, race and even religion - the main reason behind me being so attracted to her (obviously.)The date was overall successful, we couldn't stop having great conversations, and she couldn't stop laughing even to the lamest, sly jokes I said to her.However, I didn't feel comfortable doing any strong/sexual flirting with her as well as doing slight touches on her arm, etc. to try and build some tension. Which basically lead to the date feeling like hanging out with a great friend - not a lover. Which I guess is basically my fault for not initiating..Keep in mind we aren't in a relationship, she just agreed to a date.Anyway after the date she started sub-tweeting me saying stuff like."I was about to tweet about a certain someone, but I realized he follows me on Twitter - that was a close call!""Even Instagram, Facebook, ahhhhh"Then, my friend who introduced me to this girl in the first placed messaged me saying that she wrote about me in her personal blog - (which I'm not meant to know about)She basically wrote this in regards to me:"If you were to ask me if he was my type, he isn't really..... But, he's a really unique, funny and interesting guy."What does this even mean? Lol. She's not attracted to me in that way? Or...?Either way, I'm kind of unsure how to go from here - seeing as I said, I failed to create any sort of sexual attraction between her and I..I was thinking of going silent with her for a week or two, to build some tension and get her thinking about me - then get her on another date if I'm lucky and man up and actually show her I'm interested in her, in that way - ie. do some actual flirting, and ultimately go in for a kiss later on..What do you guys think? Am I overthinking this? Haha.Any help or advice will be greatly appreciated - THANK YOU!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 July 2013):
 I was thinking.... that's the first mistake
it's not a GAME this is LIFE
do not play games
if you like her be yourself and ask her out again
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reader, CMMP +, writes (13 July 2013):
Congratulations on dating your sister!
You're over thinking it, just ask her out again.
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reader, llifton +, writes (13 July 2013):
 it does sound like she likes you. i think what she meant by that statement about you not being her usual type is just simply that you're different than what she's used to. but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. i think, in fact, that it could be a really good thing. it could have her caught off guard how much she's really into you, and that she didn't expect it to go so amazingly well.
the girl i'm with now is completely different than what i was ever used to. i always dated caucasian women with dark hair and basically all looked the same and had the same personalities. hell, they all looked and acted like they could be related lol. the girl i'm with now is half saudi and looks and behaves nothing like the women i was ever with before. once i got to know her, i felt much like this girl seems to about you. she was nothing like my usual "type." and that wound up being a really good thing in the end. a breath of fresh air.
anyway, if i were you, i'd do exactly like you said. give it a couple of days and then ask her out again. and this time, be a bit more affectionate. that way she knows you're interested. good luck. sounds like this could be a really good thing.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 July 2013):
 It was just the first date? If so, I think it was a GOOD thing you didn't come on too strongly with the "sexual tension". Take the time to get to know her and let her get to know you.
And maybe her "type" is more guy she knows aren't good for her, so she is being smart and trying to date one who ISN'T like that.
I would actually think of it as a compliment.
Going silent is playing mind-games and that, my friend is a GREAT way to lose a girl.
IF you are interested CALL he and ask her out again. SHOW her you enjoyed spending time with her and WANT to spend more time with her.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 July 2013):
Sometimes women still date men that aren't really their "type" because they know that these men are probably a really nice and funny guy with a great personality and hope that getting to know them will make the attraction grow.
I think maybe it's good to wait several days and then try asking her on a date again. Definitely be a little more flirtatious, but maybe wait on trying to go in for a kiss unless you get the feeling she wants you to.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2013): If a girl wrote something about you on her blog it means she really must have really like you a lot.
What she meant when she said this:
If you were to ask me if he was my type, he isn't really..... But, he's a really unique, funny and interesting guy."
She means your not her usual type and its a surprise for her but she find you attractive in a different way. Like your unique, funny and interesting.
Maybe her usual type are different from the qualities she sees in you.
But if she likes you, The answer is YES.
I should know. I'm a woman. When we don't like a guy, we will never mention about that guy in our personal blog.
Or even agree to have a date with you. I speak for myself. I cant waste my time for someone i don't like. So if she spend time to be with you alone even for an hour or so, she likes you. Good Luck!
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