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writes:I'm someone who has always felt very lonely. I know that must sound pathetic coming from a young female. My parents divorced when I was very young, and I'm an only child. I only have one grandparent left (my grandmother) but she lives very far away so we never see each other. I also don't have many friends. I only have 2 friends who I've been friends with since elementary school. For the most part I got bullied and picked on about my looks through out most of high school and just never really had anyone. I work part time and go to community college part time. I tried getting involved in school but haven't had much luck. I don't want to come off as desperate but I have tried making conversation with people my age. It's nice to talk to people but I want a few good friends who I can hang out with and talk with outside of school. I live in a very busy city where it just seems hard to meet nice people I assume. Does anyone have any ideas or can give me advice as to what I should do? I just feel very lonely lately and I hate this feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2015): Firstly you have to make sure that you are your own best friend and do things that make you happy and healthy like learning to cook new meals so that at least you have some menues on hand.Also learn to sing some songs and pactice them at home.You can always join a choir as they can be fun, or make a band when you finally meet your new friends and lastly you can learn to play bass guitar which is rhytmic and pleasant and will keep you happily occupied and give you things to talk about like how do you make that A minor rhthym chord.There are loads of encouraging lesson sites on the net and you can sign up to free guitar news shots daily about who's doing what.This will increase your love of music and keep you from thinking that music is only for couples because music is for everyone and is an international movement.Finally you can join a church youth movement for people of your age and that can be surprisingly pleasant too,particularly when it comes around to xmas.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 October 2015):
 Volunteer..... I can't suggest where... but look for volunteering opportunities, because there are always organizations that need volunteers..... A hospital, library, soup kitchen..... LOOK and you'll find such a place.
WHY (do so)... because you will find two things:
1. There are "others" who are in the same boat as you, and,
2. You will be in the company of "others"... with whom you'll have something in-common (You'll volunteer together..).
Good luck....
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (10 October 2015):
 Loneliness can strike any person of any age and for a variety of circumstance so no, I don't think it is pathetic at all. making friends is more than just making conversation it is about having the courage to put yourself out there. I would imagine being bullied hasn't help with your confidence either. Think about what you like, what are your interest and see if there are any like minded groups/clubs that you can get involved with. If you find someone interesting and worth your time the why not just ask them if they would like to catch up socially. Maybe coffee, lunch, see a band or and event. I know you are young so perfectly understandable to be wanting to make friends of similar age but when you talk about loneliness have you considered volunteering at an old folks home because if there is any one group of people that are ready and willing to make a connection it's the oldies. A life time of memories, stories and some good old fashion wisdom is a great foundation for meaningful friendships.
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