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female
age
36-40,
*ngelwings
writes:I am not happy in my marriage, but i keep letting my husband come back because he keeps asking me over and over if i want a divorce and i tell him yes and then the next day he asks me the same question. It's like i cant end it, last night i laid awake thinking about how i would just like to get in my car drive to an ocean and throw my phone in it and then go and get a job and search the paper for a roommate wanted ad. I just feel so trapped. I am 22 years old, and i had doubts before the wedding but felt pressured because the invitations were out, his parents had pumped out so much money, etc.. i just always wanted my life to be excitng and adventerous. My husband now when he came back he told me i could see a tharapist about being depressed, and that i could get on antidepressents. I really think where i have not lived and found out who i was is the problem. I dont want to have to talk about a divorce he can tell im not happy, idk what to do. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): Girl you married too young, if there are no kids and this is not what you signed up for get out.
Studies have shown on average, any married life gives men years to their life, and for a woman and unhappy married life takes away years. As a woman you will live longer and happier alone, then in an unhappy marriage. Take back the years that this marriage is sucking from you and live a long and happy life.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 December 2007):
 Richard and Baby Duck have said it all.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (7 December 2007):
 Apart from your 'itchy feet' is there anything else wrong with the marriage? What is your husband's view? An additional post would be appreciated.
Returning to you, it appears it isn't just your marriage that you are not happy with. You are not happy with your career. And you are not happy with where you live. Your social life/leisure doesn't get mentioned, but I guess that is another problem. Are there other problems as well that you want to get away from?? I feel you haven't provided the full picture. What you have left out is probably the most important. You're anonymous - it doesn't matter.
What are your husband's ambitions? What is stopping the two of you exploring/discovering together? If you are stuck with a mortgage, you can always rent the house out and go live somewhere else. Go and live overseas for six months. Change your job or retrain. Excite yourself with your own business. Sign up for working in famine relief.
Whether therapy is needed I doubt, but you might benefit from counselling if you are so frustrated. You do need to understand what is making you feel trapped - your marraige or your life.
Post again with some more information and some answers.
Richard
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