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writes:well I have tried my best to avoid this girl because I know it will hurt me to see the one I love hook up with another guy. I have seen it before and I felt so sick for about a week. well that was 2 and a half weeks ago and I only talked to her once since then to kinda blow off some steam. I don't know if she knows that I am angry/sad but who knows. She texted me today saying "I miss you kid" and it felt good this is the second time in the last week she has said this to me first one being "I miss you". I want to go back to seeing her every weekend and sometimes after school because it felt so good to have someone who wants to be with me. But I am not sure I can go out with her and see her talk to other people and get there numbers. even if we are just friends I have feelings for her we have kissed and cuddled but we never "dated" even know I sorta was hoping we were. My question is what to do basically? I want to be with her because I miss her a lot but when I texted her back saying maybe we can hang she didn't reply and Im tired of it. I really want to say next time she says I miss you this (Name, you really expect a nice response you tricked me into thinking you cared but honestly Im not going to be your crying shoulder anymore how about talk to the guy you want to date maybe he will care more than me and if not tuff Im no ones bitch"something like that because she needs to know that if the guy she likes doesn't like her back Im not going to be the in between sympathy person she should either date me and I know she likes me and she knows I like her or never talk to me again because Im not going to get played again. Last question is do you think this is a little harsh I think its fair, who wants to be the back up person for someone because the one that is "dateable" isn't available or doesn't like you as much.
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reader, justfriends +, writes (12 March 2011):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the question we have kissed more than 3 separate times in the last little while I am going to a party tonight with her and her friend. so hopefully something will happen that is good. I want to show her that ill be the man I am obviously not intimidated by most people cause Im 6'4 200 and lift like a champion so I kinda want something to happen so I can step in and have her notice.
thanks for the help wish me luck!!!
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (11 March 2011):
What to do? Tell her exactly what you want from her. Tell her you want her as a girlfriend or nothing. If she is going after another boy, the move on. Never be the friend of the girl you like for a girlfriend. Rule number one. If you are her friend you won't even be a backup.
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reader, secretly-innocent  +, writes (11 March 2011):
Ok, you want an honest opinion right? If you really like this girl like you say you do then you need to be her shoulder to cry on! I agree don't become her "bitch" because that is not fair! But because you guys have kissed and cuddled before makes me think that she likes you too! My general rule is if you kiss on more than 3 separate occasions then she must have feelings too! Otherwise she wouldn't go back to you would she?How about if you get together again then maybe ask her to hangout, or go on a date, there's a chance that she is either trying to make you feel jealous, or she just doesn't want to make the first move because she doesn't want to get disappointed!As for replying to her "I miss you" messages do not reply as you have suggested because then you will most certainly lose her as a friend, and likely other people too!Hope this helps :)
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