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writes:I feel that my boyfriend is coming on a little too strong. I'm 13 and he's already talking about getting married!! We have been dating for 7 amazing months, and I love him so much. But I mean really, should we be thinking about marriage quite yet? Of course, I've made it clear to him that I'm not going to have sex until I'm married. But, he wants to do more such as foreplay. I'm ok with that, but should I do this quite yet when I'm only 13? I want to be fully committed to the man I marry, I'm not going to be stupid when I'm this young. Please and thank you!!
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reader, Asiamericaluv +, writes (19 March 2009):
Hey there...alright, so I'm thirteen too. It seems to me that when young couples like you & your boyfriend engage in "first love", the guy is really happy bout it, & so is the girl, but the girl thinks her first love's the last. What I'm saying is even though you're in love now, you might fall in even deeper love later. It's a big thing to commit yourself at just thirteen. You're definitely doing the right thing to deny him sex if you are holding out tip marriage (kudos to you!). & if you're comfortable with giving him foreplay, then follow your heart, but the ultimate proof of love here is if he truly loves you for you he'll understand if you don't want to & still love you. In other words, even though you want to make him happy, in early relationships like this always put yourself first. Best of luck :)
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (19 March 2009):
Don't do anything that you're not comfortable with! If you don't want to have sex, or even foreplay, then tell him you don't want to and if he really loves you, he'll respect you and what you want. As for the marriage thing, I'm 13 too and my boyfriend talks about us getting married all the time. It just shows that he's happy with the relationship and how it's going.
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