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writes:I am a 16 year old student at an all boys school. But I have developed feelings for one of my male teachers and don't know what to do. I have had these feelings for him for coming up to 2 years now. They started off as just thoughts and now I keep thinking about him. Matters were made worse when I did something a few months ago that I got in a fair amount of trouble over, but basically he knows, but I'm not sure whether he thinks they're true or not...I love being around him, but it feels slightly awkward at the moment as a result of a few months ago, and I hate not seeing him. We get on well and can have a laugh etc.I am so confused because I am not gay, until recently I had a gf but we split up because of other reasons and I don't think of other males in 'that' way. But he's the exception. Also I know that he's married with three kids.Help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThings are starting to feel slightly back to the way they were with him now (i.e. not AS awkward as it was) even though I still have these feelings for him. Potentially more so than before the incident a few months ago. (Apologies for not being able to share what happened with you all, but I really cannot tell ANYONE.)But one thing that is still on my mind whenever I'm with him is, What is he thinking? What goes through his head when he's around me now?And things like that, it's hard to tell whether he's treating me the same or not, mainly because I've only had two lessons with him since... (Due to mock study-leave) and I never got to speak to him alone about what happened and why. I'm still trying to figure out for myself why I did it. I have put it down to the fact that I DID have feelings for him a few months ago (and still do... .) and felt I wanted to talk to him. I then severely blew it out of proportion as a result of factors such as the fact I was trying to do it anonymously. Then he found out what I had done and I said that I didn't have feelings for him, or at least not anymore so I don't know what he thinks. Help… :(Ps. if any of you have msn and want to talk to me about this or anything then plz say and I will send you a msg. It’s easier than talking on here, and I’m always up for meeting new people. Anyway, thanks for listening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol - I know im not gay and not worried about that. and dont worry im not going to tell anyone.
But what I want to know is what do I do about the feelings for my teacher. One main thing that I'm dreading is when one of us is going to have to leave the school, I dunno what the situation will be at the time, whether I'll still have feelings for him etc. but at the moment I'm dreading it and I don't want to have to say goodbye to him. It was bad enough not seeing him for two weeks during study leave for the mocks.
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reader, charley mcfarley +, writes (22 January 2007):
strong bonded relationships between lads your age and teachers of thier own sex are more common than you clearly are aware. i know you feel strange bacause you are not used to liking a teacher in this way but it doesnt necassarily mean you are gay darling. i strongly recommend that you dont tell any of your friends about this (i doubt you would anyway) but it could full well end up getting around.
thats all i can really say anyways so buh bye =]
dont let it get to yah. xxx
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reader, Reebe +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Sometimes when your young and your hormones are all over the place. You meet people that you really admire that you think about a lot and make you clumsey when your near them. This doesn't mean you gay. I remember a few women that i felt like that about when I was the same age as you but after a while they wore off. Some even lasted the whole of my time a senior school! who too was a teacher. Eventually the feelings do fade, this man is some one you respect and admire and you fell like you may of let him down, I wouldn't worry about any of this I think it's pretty normal!
Good Luck
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