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writes: I'm 16, and I've been with my girlfriend for a while now. I'm always nice to her and I always try to make her happy. But she always seems to be unhappy. Most of the time, it's about absolutely nothing though. I know it can't be her period, because this is a constant thing. I get sooo frustrated, because there is no way to cheer her up. What should I do?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 December 2005):
Hi there,Being with someone who is constantly unhappy sure isn't a good feeling for you is it? Not only can it bring your mood down, it can also make you feel like your being a baf bf, one who cant please somoene they care for and who should be able to.Its great that your putting in heaps of effort and are trying, good on you for doing that!Now you didn't give much detail about your situation but my guess is that she is going through alot of tough times at the moemnt or may be clinically depressed or some mental illness. To have a fulfiling, healthy and happy relationship its not all about jokes, fun and games. Its about coneecting with someone. Have you tried talking to her about yours and hers feelings? Do you both ever talk about issues or probelms your havign in life? When your going through a bad time and are very down, one of the best hings is to talk to someone, so maybe you could get her to tell you how she feels. Find out whats going on.But if she can't open up, dont take it to perosnally, some people have alot of trouble due to past expeirences. There is also the chance that she is clinically depressed and you said that most of the time shes upset about nothing,which leads me to think she is depressed, as depressed people can be depressed about things that are bad but they can also get upset about 'little things' and to them are more liekly to seem horrible. If this is the case counselling would be a good option for her.So my advice to you is, keep on doing what your doing, being a caring, and supportive bf. Say if your having a down day, talk to her about it, tell her how you feel and let her support you. So then when shes down she will know she can open up to you. Even say to her that she can talk to you abotu anythign and you will listen and just be there for her. If you find it to hard to cope with, which you might as it can be very hard, try to stick by her, but if your not getting what you need out of the relationship and shes not putting in much effort them maybe its time to consider moving on.I hope ive helped :)
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reader, Monk +, writes (1 December 2005):
Either she's chronically depressed and needs medical attention or you're just not doing it for her. First off, women don't want their men to be nice. Nice means petty, innocuous, and unoriginal. Quit being a sissy. Grow up and be a man, especially if she's the depressed and not so poised type. Give her direction in life. Get a little rough with her when you're under the covers. Distract her from her depressed state. Don't be one of those sensitive metrosexual fools. Be a man.
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