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writes:I need to gauge some opinions here please aunties.I'm nearly 30, single, and still a virgin; but this isn't what bothers me, it's the fact that I don't feel ready for sex yet. I have no drive for sex.I see people posting questions on here about how they are desperate for sex...and here I am not really that bothered about it.I've had a few girlfriends but never had that urge or felt ready to "get into their pants".Hitting the fourth decade still being a virgin seems a little crazy...but not really having the urge to have sex seems silly.Is this all normal??
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 You may simply be asexual, which is a condition where a person has no desire to have sex. I did an interview with a guy named David Jay of a website that helps give information to asexuals about asexuality.
If this is your situation, you are very normal and in good company. You are not alone in this.
You can listen to the interview for free at my website www.FBKradio.com. Just scroll down until you read David Jay on Asexuality. It has the interview and the link to his site.
-Frank B Kermit
http://www.FBKradio.com
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reader, daletom  +, writes (6 August 2008):
I agree with "DoubleM" - you are certainly unusual, though that in itself is neither wrong nor necessarily unhealthy. Have you developed the body of an adult man? Do you ever masturbate?
Just to be sure there isn't a hidden physical problem I'd mention it to your primary physician.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (6 August 2008):
 hey i forgot to add go buy a film called 40 yr old virgin you might learn a few things from that dude good luck aphex
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 August 2008):
 Well in my opinion, your description is anything but normal, although it is psychologically fine as long as you are happy with it. But my first thought while reading your description is that there are many physiological reasons to have sex. As a human being, sex is part of health and the process of living, perhaps almost as vital as eating, sleeping, exercise and other physical functions. It is medically well-known that the release of tension that typically accompanies sex is very healthy, if not necessary to physical well-being. For instance, I'm twice you age, and numerous doctors and natural health advisors have all told me that sex is essential for healthy living at my age. I've also been told that regular sex may help prevent prostate cancer and other problems. Remember the old saying, "Use it or lose it."
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (5 August 2008):
just a quick question how do you know if your ready to ride a horse unless you try and see? aphex
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