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writes:I'm 23 and have just started an amazing new relationship. I've been dating this girl for almost two months now, and while I realize its still in the new honeymoon phase, I couldn't be happier.My only issue is, I'm moving in about 3 months, to a school that's 8 hours away from where I live right now. When I began dating this girl, I didn't think it would get serious so I never saw this problem coming (I'm a bisexual female and this is my first serious relationship with another woman). I feel like its incredibly selfish to ask her to move with me, but I want her to so badly! A long distance relationship seems impossible, and I realize it should be entirely too early to move in together, but breaking up doesn't seem like an option either. But I feel like I need to prepare myself for what's bound to happen.Help!
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (2 May 2011):
Don't ask her to move with you. Thats too much pressure and commitment on her part and yours. Try long distance. Sometimes, it's not as bad as you think it is. If it doesn't work out, then that is that. At least you tried. But dont' give up on the relationship just cause you're moving away. Give it a fair chance. At least that in the possible event that you break up, you will know that you at least tried.And if it ends up working out, then great! :)
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (1 May 2011):
 Although it has only been two month which isnt very long if you feel that there maybe a future for the two of you, you need to tell her how you feel because really if you are moving away, what do you have to lose?If you dont think you will last long distance, then asking her to go with you cant hurt, because if she does say no then you will be no worse off than you are now. Although long distance isnt ideal many couple last through it, my girlfriend and i have been forced to do long distance a few times in the past and lived through it.Good luck
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