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30-35,
anonymous
writes:dear cupid,I 18 years old and married with a daughter she is 10 months I have recently found out that my ex is back from the marines and I really miss him and want to talk to him badly but I know If I do my husband will be mad but I am still madly in love with my ex what should I do?
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reader, pawana  +, writes (18 March 2011):
plz concentrate on ur daughter..forget ur ex, itz bit difficult..later everythng wil b fine
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (18 March 2011):
Sit down and re-read the letter you just wrote to us. What a "mess" and what extra baggage you have in your young life. Why did you marry your husband, or were you pregnant and felt you had to? Had you broken up with your ex prior to his leaving for the Marines? If you husband is working and footing the bills, then I suggest you get some new thought patterns going. You now are a married woman with a young child to consider. Seriously think if this returning Marine would want you in the picture again as his wife and one with a child from another man. That should settle any questions in your mind. And, if he would agree to all the baggage you'll drag into your relationship, it will take a lot of time before you two could be together again as a couple. You'd need to get a divorce, set up custody & visitation with your ex, find employment to support the child and yourself, etc. Then, seriously consider that this returning Marine may be coming from a totally different place than previously - especially if he saw combat. You two may not click in the way you did as much younger persons!
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reader, KeighleySky  +, writes (18 March 2011):
 First of all can i ask why you got married if you dont love your husband?
Also i think talking to your ex would just make things worse, its not going to help your marriage and its certainly not going to help you or him. You need to sever ties with him.
Your daughter needs you to be there for her, you should concentrate on her and not an ex.
If you love your daughter and have the smallest bit of care fo ryour husband i think you should not go and see your ex. They both need you right now, especially your daughter who is at the stage where what you do affects her the most.
It would also be better for you to forget about your ex, i know its hard but your daughter is more inportant at this time.
Please take my advice x
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