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writes:i have been with my husband for seven years and another man has never crossed my mind, since i started working at this new job, a married man who is older than me and also friends with my husband has made advances at me, at first i just thought it was flirting, but he put his hands on me and i went weak, i just couldnt stop him and i didnt really want to. what am i going to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Wow, this other man is a piece of work isn't he and let me say...he's no friend to your husband! And what about you..why all of a sudden the flirting? Why did you even allow that? Any married woman who is openly interested in flirting with a male, other than her husband is a frightening concern in any marriage and I have to say, dear, you do sound needy and bored which could be causing your desires for some attention. If so, I am always amazed at how people do this. feel so badly for your husband. Sounds like he deserves a wife who loves, him, respects him and is totally honest with him. Marriage is sacred...it's a lifetime commitment-it's one on one. So...you have a couple options here. You can come to your senses, ignore this guy at work, build on what you have with hubby, work hard, and keep your marriage together. It will take time and perhaps some marriage counseling, but it can be done. Or...you can continue to carry on with this other guy-and do nothing. Inevitably, hubby will get hurt because it will be just a matter of time when you will have sex with this guy and your marriage will be destroyed and then you'll be stuck with some jerk who boinks 'other men's wives' . It's your call. If you want your marriage to work...you are the only person that can control your destiny. It takes strength, it takes morals, it takes perseverance but it can be done.
Theoretically speaking-If you and this other guy do have an affair...ask yourself...just what type of man is he? That he would disrespect another man's marriage. Honorable, good men do not mess with another man's marriage...plain and simple. And honorable, loving women do 'not' forsake their marriage vows because they are bored- and want some outside action. No one has ever claimed that marriage is easy...it's not. It's darn hard work! Find out why you are feeling this way. The love for your hubby has to come from you. You need to work at this and you need to to be upfront with your husband. He's committed himself to you..It's the least you can do for him. I hope you make the right decision, dear. Take care and good luck
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (17 February 2007):
 In my opinion you already know what to do.
I think you are just looking for someone to tell you it is alright.
You need to run away from this situation as fast and far as possible.
And as far as your relationship with your husband, there could be something there you are not telling.
Let me tell you this, it will by far be better to repair your existing relationship than to destroy your marriage.
And as far as this other guy goes think of this; You end up ruining your marriage and end up with this guy. He has just demonstrated that he can be unfaithful in a relationship so now what keeps him from doing it to you?
Go do the right thing. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Its neva the answer, u neva cheat!! Its best not to get involved with someone you work with or do it for a promotion, Jus be straight with him and tell him no!! It took me long enough to be faithful but i know neva to cheat again!!!!
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reader, SUE7  +, writes (17 February 2007):
Ok,
First tell your husband it was just harmless fun from you but the other guy well he might of gone further if you were willing to give in to him as for the other guy I would stay clear of him It is ok to tell your Husband that you just wanted a shall we say tingly feeling but be glad you done no more than that. Tell this guy at work communicate and just tell him but if he says things like Yer you enjoyed it din't you or won't listen then I would consider changing your Job!! Before he keeps pestering you!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): just tell him it cant happen again and forget it, try to avoid him if you can, and if not,let him know that it cant or wont happen
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