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writes:Me and my boyfriend are together for almost 2 years until just lately I kissed another guy whom I'm spending my night with for almost 2 months. This guy is just a friend whom I'm working with on a job. I never thought I can do this to my boyfriend, I am very loyal to him and I don't mean to mess things up due to my integrity which I am taking care of. I am a good girlfriend until I knew I was kissing another guy, we sleep together and unaware that we were hugging each other and after a week I woke up and we're suddenly kissing each other. I believe I can't do this if only my boyfriend and I are not fighting lately. My relationship with my boyfriend is getting weak for me. I am losing my love for him because of respect issues. And this guy, I am falling for him. Compared to my boyfriends attitude, this guy is better. I am very close to my boyfriends' family, friends.. I thought he is the one, but I am confused.. I don't want to tell my boyfriend about this. My boyfriend and this guy know each other but not that much. I am confused. What shall I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Was he being very possessive of you? The reason why I'm asking this is because I saw that you're from the Philippines and Filipino guys are sometimes possessive over their girlfriends and will even beat up girlfriends who cheat with other guys or beat up any other guy that steals their girlfriend.I also learned if you cheat on your boyfriend in the beginning, your boyfriend could also become even by doing the same thing.Anyway, if you tell him what you did with this other guy, he'll blow up at you. So be careful when telling him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): You should tell him the truth, because all I can say is that Karma will bite you in the butt. All relationships I am sure start amazingly. With this new guy, you barely know him and a relationship with him will turn sour. Will you do the same then or will this new guys do the same to you. Think about that. Talk to your boyfriend and TELL HIM THE TRUTH!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): You should tell him the truth and if he should ask how and why be prepared to answer all questions. You owe him at least that much. If you have integrity you would have not slept with this guy and if you still have any self respect you will tell your boyfriend the truth. All relationships have their ups and downs but how can you move forward in life and not be concious that this may happen to you with some other guy. You should tell him and wait for his response.
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reader, fireangel  +, writes (20 June 2009):
well first off you are not loyal to him because you cheated on him. ifnyou say you are loyal to him you would have not cheated on him in the first place. so you just need to face facts and relize that you are not loyal. pretty much you are lying o yourself and to him and in the long run you are going to hurt either way not telling him or telling him. so what you need to figure you what you are going to do, but either way you need to tell him and the figure out what you are going to do because either way you are hurting yourself by not tell him and yourself by doing it and holdong it in. you will start to pull away and he is going to know something is up and will start questioning. so you need to figure out what is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): You cannot make excuses, so that's the firt thing you must do. Is realize that you cheated on him.. a lot actually and the fact that you've been argueing a lot or your "relationship is weakening" or any of that, does NOT justify cheating. That's something you need to take full and completele respsonsibilty for. You don't "wake up" after a week and realize you've been cheating..
Anyway..
It's pretty simple what you have to do. Break up with your boyfriend. That's not how you treat "the one" and you certainly should not stay with someone because you get along with their friends and family.
I mean, you said it all yourself: You cheated, you don't respect him, you're falling for someone else, the other guy is better...
The answer is sitting in front of you.
You should tell him what you did to him too. Otherwise, he will be sad and heartbroken and take time to get over you. BUt when you tell him you cheated, he can just be mad and get over you because you're not the girl he always thought you were.
~SY.
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