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writes:Hello guys,This is my situation.I have a girlfriend, we are currently on our 10th month this month. Everything seems to be in great shape. I know I love her, but not sexually, intimately or passionately. I don't know how, but I know I want to protect her, provide for her and care for her. But this past few months, I've realized some things about myself and came to the conclusion that I can never make her happy because I just can't. And I want to let her go so she can find the happiness she deserves and she deserves something much greater than I am. She loves me so much and I know that. And I am also afraid to tell her that i cannot make her happy and scared of what others will say because we seems like a perfect couple for each other. I am afraid to say that I am looking for something different and I'd rather be alone in my life than to emprisoned her to a life that she doesn't deserve. I know she deserves to be happy more than anyone. Should I break up with her and end this and let her go to find another man to love her? What should i do? I'm torn between what I want to do and what I need to do. Please help me. Please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your answers. it really helps a lot. Last night, I told her everything, at text at first, but I met up with her and explain everything on her and gladly, she understands, Believe it or not, it's like the song "There's no easy way to break somebody's heart". It's a lifechanging thing for me and I have no more burden of hurting her, of course, it's hard for the both of us, especially to her, but we're both optimistic that we can move on. And thank you guys. maraming maraming salamat (Thank you very much in Filipino)
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 mmm..... not really.
maybe on the phone? that way she can hear you and hear what you have to say rather than writting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've made a letter, is it ok? I'm sorry, I just cant tell her personally...
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (8 July 2009):
i know it's hard but you need to do what is best.
all i can suggest is that you sit down with her and tell her face to face.
don't do it over the phone or text or anything she'll hate you if you do that at least face to face it's more personal and she'll respect you for doing it face to face.
you just have to say that over the months your feelings have now grown more towards friend than love relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advices but how? It's very hard... I feel like crying...
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (8 July 2009):
well you definately need to tell her because it is unfair on her i mean she obviously loves you but you may see it in a more of a friend relationship now more than a love.
you do need to tell her now it'll be hard obviously because it's your 10th month but she needs to know how you're feeling because you can't live this lie and drag it on longer it'll be unfair.
you should definately break up with her and let her go because she could find happiness else where and have someone who loves her the way she wants and needs to be loved and still be friends with you although at first she may not want to be your friend which is cool but then you'll know you've offered it and it's there should she wish to accept :)
hope this helps.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 It's best to be honest. If you don't feel that you can make her happy, then tell her. It's better to break it off now than suffer in a loveless relationship for years. What other people think of you doesn't matter because they don't know the truth. If they ask, say that it wasn't working out.
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