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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I feel so down about this..I am 20 and i started my new job 2 months ago. Ever since i cant stop thinking about a really friendly guy i work with. I thought this crush would go away but it hasnt. I even read loads of online stuff like "how to deal with a crush at work" etc and i totally udnerstood everything ...-how they are just a fanatasy.- its natural to gain feelings for someone who you spend 30 hours a week with which can often be more time than you spend with friends.but the part i didnt seem to understand was that it said they can often be in your head so much when your in work but as soon as you go home you will forget about them.But i dont!! at all, I cant stop thinking about him. I wouldnt approach him as im too shy and scared around him and plus i know work relationships never work out and we are never alone anyway. But i just wish i could get rid of these feelings.. its making me depressed and turning me quite obsessive mentally and also making me feel really lonely and quite ugly and bad about myself.I dont feel attractive at all ither cos im working so much and havnt got time to make myself feel good..things like doing my hair. You know silly things us women do to make ourself look n feel better. can anyone give me tips on how to look/feel better and what to do with work. it is frustrating me so much and if i told my friends they would probably laugh which i actually cant blame them lolI cant approach this guy. i really am too weak regarding getting rejected. I cant even ask him normal questions now its got to the point wer i say hi and smile then go completely quiet.its crazy cos im such a large character n loud normly.
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reader, janhockeynut  +, writes (21 November 2007):
 Why don't you approach him at the company Christmas party? Suggest you go elsewhere to get something to eat. Or, have a shot of vodka on a Thursday eve at about 5:00, then ask him to accompany you why you get something to eat. I thin the eating event will break the ice.
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