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writes:So I'm leaving college in two weeks for study leave and exams, and hopefully, if I don't have to resit a year, I'll be leaving for good. I've liked one of my teachers for almost the entire two years I've been in college, and have reason to believe the feelings may be mutual. I know the legal issues with student and teacher relationships, however I will be leaving so he will no longer be my teacher, and apparently my college may be merging with other sixth forms due to poor budget, so some teachers will lose their job, and if he happens to be one of those teachers then it's not like I could visit the college and see him again. Life's too short and you only live once, so I've decided to take this risk now that I'll be leaving, but I have no idea what to say. We've never been close; it's always stayed on a professional level and he's actually quite shy anyway, so I'd rather not wait for him to approach me IF he does have feelings for me because I don't think he would. Either way, I'm not going to find out until I try, and I don't see how I could get into much trouble since I'm leaving shortly. So what I'm asking is, what could I say to him? Do you think this is really a good idea? I'd like to be subtle about it, not direct, and outright 'Want to go out for a drink?' or something, in case it backfires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I meant was, if it had been someone who wasn't a teacher people are less likely to say just get over it because there aren't so many issues with that as with a relationship with a teacher.
Yeah, that's why I'd like to be subtle about it so it won't be so awkward. I would wait longer but I would miss any opportunity and probably won't see him again after the next two weeks since I won't be going back there, and especially if he happens to be one of the teachers to lose their jobs.
I'm not 100% sure if he does have feelings for me, but considering I have studied body language I'd say there's a good chance he does. A few friends have also noticed and mentioned it and most of them aren't aware that I like him. I guess I kinda just want to test the waters - find out if he does or not, and maybe progress from there once I'm done with college or something.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (30 April 2010):
Why would they say go fot it? I think they would probably say go and get on with your life?
It is not the age issue which means nothing but you are at an age when you are susceptible to those authority figures around you. How do you know if he even fancies you. Do it another way wait 3 months and then see how you feel.
It may be that you will be hurt and he will be embarassed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm actually 18, I wouldn't be leaving college at 17. And yeah, I know I'm young and have the rest of my life ahead of me, but it's up to me what I do with my life. I've liked this guy for two years, but just because he's a teacher and about five years older than me that means I have to forget about him? Would it make a difference if he had some other job instead? Yeah, it would; people would probably say go for it instead.
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reader, Brunel +, writes (30 April 2010):
Please please 'you are 17 and you only live once' that is a load of tosh. You have a crush! That is fine now move on? Like you said 'you only live once' so get on with your life and forget that teacher?
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