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*heonix1000
writes:I'm 30 my partner 35 we have been together for a year. Basically I've been living with my parents which hasn't been ideal and not in a position to move out. I'm at my partner's most days and asked about living together, he said he wasn't ready this was around 6 weeks ago. He wouldn't indicate what he had in mind or a timescale at all. Also he knew from the day we met I had a dog and he didn't dispute her staying over, yet it didn't happen, I asked again and he said he didn't like the idea! I feel a bit in limbo although I appreciate everyone has there own timescale etc.But if he's not willing to give any committment, then it just seems as though he's still single. I wouldn't mind but I give 100% support, so it's a bit disheartening really. He says he wants to be with me, I've made it clear that if he just wants something as oppose to nothing then I won't waste my time with him, especially if he has no intention of being with me. On the other hand we have talked about marriage and he was the one who wanted to be with me... I'm confused do I stick it out or forget it? Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (25 October 2008):
 A year is not a long enough for some people to make a commitment such as living together. Some people do and some don't. I don't think I would be ready to live with someone after a year. I don't think he is in the wrong with how he is feeling. Just enjoy being with him and don't try to push him into something he doesn't want. If that happens it will just ruin the relationship.
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