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writes: I don't think things are going well with my boyfriend, i don't think i'm yet ready for a relationship but i do have feelings for him (but also still have feelings for someone else) and i want to break up but still be friends, but i don't want to hurt his feelings. Also my friends told me today that my b/f's ex asked him out again but he said no, which will make me feel guilty about breaking up with him. I was going to write a letter and put it in his locker so i don't embarrass him in front of his friends.Should i tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Letter? Locker? Aren't you old and mature enough to say it to his face? This'd be the least way to hurt him. Don't feel guilty, as you know that he deserves better. Feel guilty only if you decided to continue. There is a rule in life; friendship can be promoted to relationship, but relationship can never go back to friendship for the person who had true feelings. Do yourself and him a favor and face him now, like a mature responsible girl, not like a kid who hides behind a letter in a locker.
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reader, graciie  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 you should take him to one side and explain how your feeling,, you shouldnt feel guilty you cant help how you feel if he respects you and has feelings for you then he will respect the way you feel.
now the "lets be friends thing" you cant expect him to be able to be friends as your the one ending it his feelings cant be switched off,, later down the line you may be able to be friends but if he still has feelings for you being friends even if its the way you see it little things may seen as signals to him so be weary,, hope it helped x
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