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writes:Skipping all the details, there is basically this guy that I've had a huge massive insane crush on for pretty much most of this year. For one reason or another it didnt work out, and I thought I'd got over him, but now he's got a new girlfriend, and it turns out im reeeaaally NOT over him. Its even worse that his new girl is everything I always wanted to be but couldn't - she's really pretty, and popular and confident. I don't want to be the crazy ex-girlfriend but I am really jealous and I can't seem to let go of the past. Please help cause this is driving me insane! Thanks everyone xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): Don't ever think that another girl is "everything you always wanted to be but couldn't", honey. Trust me, that isn't true. No two people are alike - sure, the new girlfriend may be beautiful, but so are you; in a different way perhaps, but that doesn't diminish the fact! She may have qualities which you don't, but the same goes for you. I don't believe you can compare people in the truest sense, because ultimately we're all individuals... and there's simply no comparison in that :)To address your question though, yes, you have to live your own life now. All the time you spend pining for a guy with whom things just weren't meant to be, you're missing out on finding one who is better for *you*. I know moving on is easier said than done when the presence of this guy and his girl is a constant reminder, but give it time. Go out, meet new people, socialise with friends. Sooner or later you're bound to come into contact with someone who'll make you wonder why you ever spent a moment longing to be back with your ex! (That's not meant to sound cruel, by the way. Of course you won't forget him, but when you're with a new person, old feelings fade to leave fond memories alone). Good luck and take care x
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reader, Starlights +, writes (17 December 2011):
 As hard as it is you need to let your ex boyfriend go.
He has clearly moved on and although you may view his girlfriend as better, don't devalue yourself, your special and unique and you too will find someone who is compatible for you.
Don't lose hope, hold your head up high and make an intention to move on from him. He's not the only guy in this world.
It is difficult when you care for him but not contacting him will help you establish a world without him.
Hope this helps!
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