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anonymous
writes:Hello there, my story is a bit weird and idiotic...I was in to a relation from 17, which i think was too early for me to jump in to it because after a year or so i started to like another girl from my family and just couldnot get out of her thoughts and hence i proposed to her...and she was waiting for that too. But then i had a strong feeling of guilt that i was already in a relation.i wanted to get out of the first relation but i couldnot because the girl was truly in love with me and most of my family knows abt it... and so i apologized to the girl whom i really liked and told about my relationship with other girl.It was heart break for her but i couldnt help it because it was a bigger heart break for me.today its been 4 years i m in same relationship...m happy but thoughts of the other girl come in mind very frequently but i cannot explain to any one abt them and i have lost her completely. the girl m in relation with loves me so much i cannot break her heart as i like her too but i love the other girl so much and cannot go for her...m dyin in between plz help what should i do... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): End your relationship now, honey. You say you're happy, but it really doesn't seem that way. If you were happy, you wouldn't want out. You love your current girl, but it does not seem like you are "in love" with her. I know you don't want to hurt her, but it will hurt her more in the long run if you stay with her when your heart is somewhere else. And your family will support you-- they want you to be happy. They won't force you to stay with someone.
You don't feel comfortable with your current relationship, and you really haven't this whole time. You stayed in it to protect her, but you really aren't. You're just hurting the both of you. Leave her and move on to the girl you actually want to be with.. Or at least leave her, because you do not love her the way you need to in order to be with her. The fact that you desire another woman so strongly proves this.
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reader, JustnFair  +, writes (30 April 2010):
You are happy in your current relationship.You also want the other girl.Ever heard of,"You cannot have your cake and eat it too".?Let go of the other girl.Until two wives are approved in your religion and country.I don't think your current girl would like that either.Doing the right thing is never easy.But you do know you need to move on and let the other girl find another guy and live her life.
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