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writes:Help! I think I'm involved with the "2-year-man"....meaning, none of his relationships ever last longer than 2 years because he gets bored and the women eventually get frustrated with being ignored or feeling distant and end up dumping him. I thought our relationship would be different. We have so much fun together, we get along well; he says he loves me but after a year-and-a-half, I'm starting to get weird signals. Like he's becoming more and more distant when he's home with me. He says it's nothing but I'm sensing some kind of weird detachment. When I come home late from a long, hard day, he's ingrossed in some TV show that has a bunch of skinny blonde 20-something girls with big boobs bouncing around and he hardly even notices I'm in the room. And our sex life has dropped off to the occasional thing now. I think he's getting bored, but when I ask him about it, he says no. All of of his relationships fail at this very point. I don't want this one to fail too because I love him dearly, but I don't know what to do. I try to give him some space, do other activities with my friends so we aren't spending so much time together, that we're burning ourselves out, but he still seems different now and I'm wondering what's going on. Also, he's been working with a young college student, mentoring her and taking her out in the field with him and I'm wondering if he's attracted to her. He says no, but his actions tell a different story.What should I do?
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 i think you need to stop working yourself up, he might be a two year man, but you are a different person, you are the first of your kind to him, maybe you have changed him by being yourself or you made no difference because of your constant fear of loosing him. i think he might be getting frustrated by your insecurities, thats why he is loosing interest bit by bit, you will drive him away later if not soon. ask him about other interesting things rather than checking up on the girl he was looking at, draw that attention to you so that if he really doesnt want you anymore because two years annivessary is approaching you will know you have tried. which means this is his problem to solve and if he is not letting you on you cant help if you dont know his phobia.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): I think that you should call this relationship off. He's starting up his pattern again of ignoring his girlfriend just before the two year mark. This looks like some sort of habit that he's got himself into. As for working with a young college student there's a possibility that he might be attracted to her and if so then maybe he might make her his new girlfriend. Get out now, you don't need this.
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