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writes: Dear cupid, I have liked this girl and I think she likes me but I went out with her older sister and she is 3 years younger than me and when I told my mate how I felt he said I was wrong and I needed help .Do you think i should ask this girl out and is it really perverted and sick?.m. Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, maxine wilson, writes (15 March 2005): No, this is not sick. It is perfectly healthy to be attracted to younger women, just make sure she's at a legal age. I would advise that you speak you speak to her older sister because if you do get in to a relationship with her, it will not last if there is conflict going on between two sisters.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (14 March 2005):
 You don't say how old you are, or how old the two girls are, either, so it's difficult to give you a precise answer.I'm guessing that you're pretty young yourself (perhaps 14 or 15) if you're relying on dating advice from your mates, so that would make the younger sister quite young by anyone's standards.There's nothing "perverted" or "sick" about liking someone younger than you, but there is a cut-off point, below which both girls and boys are too young to be making adult decisions about dating and who you really shouldn't be trying to go out with. As you already know, there are a lot of confusing pitfalls in going out with the other sex, and kids that are too young can make poor judgements, getting into a lot of trouble.This is just my opinion, but below an age of about 13 - unless that person is wise beyond her years - is really too young to be going out. Even at 13, I'd want to see the date happen in daylight hours. I'd say 12 is OK, if both of you were including her in a group of similar-aged friends.Below that, is just too young to be serious about. You need to make your own decision about asking this girl out, based on whether you have any common interests and whether there's an attraction between you. Don't let your mate's opinion count for any more than the opinion of any other stranger on the street. Your mate isn't you and doesn't feel the same feelings you do.Having said that, if she's only 12 or 13, it would be an excellent idea to ask one of her parents about asking her to go out with you, before you ask her. Because you're the "older man" in this equation, you'll be expected to act that way, and it will get her folks on side if you approach them first.Good luck, and I hope this helps.
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