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writes:Okay, so I need alot of help. I'll start off by saying I'm 16 years old and I'm mature for my age. And I'm not just saying that. I'm not a fake person. I dont wear to much makeup, but I am very pretty. I dress nicely and I'm chill, but I have a wild side and I like to have fun, but I'm not a whore. I'm really down to earth and I'm a good person. Just thought I'd say all that. Anyways, I have an older sister whos 24, and when I was 12, shed always let me come over her house, even when her friends were there, and there was this one kid she was friends with that I assumed was her age. I kinda had a little crush on him, but I was 12. He had crazy hair and a couple piercings and tattoos and worked at gamestop and hottopic and was so funny and REALLY NICE and was so respectable, like to my mom and my dad.(basically the type of guy id like to have now) At that time, he was dating my sisters best friend, but when they broke up, he and my sister stopped talking so didn't see him anymore. Well, about three weeks ago, I was at the mall with my sister, and we saw him. He came up to us and gave my sister a hug and asked her how she was and I could tell by the way he looked at me, he was amazed at how good I looked (I was kinda an ugly duckling from 10 to 14. haha.) and he told my sister he couldnt believe how much I changed. That night, he added my sister and I on facebook, and him and I began talking. Just catching up on thinhgs and talking about how we've been. I looked at his pic and realized that even though it had been four years, he hadnt changed that much. Just a little more serious job, a little less crazy hair, but he still had a great sense of humor. At this point, I began thinking, well 24 isnt too bad. And I can see myself being with this kid. Seriously. But then, this is how are next conversation went. (well a little piece of it)him: so youre still in highschool, right?me: yep, im in 11th.him: WOW, i feel old.me: haha, youre not too old.him: yes i am! lol, im 30.MY HEART SANK! 30!? WHAT THE HELL?!?!i really like him, and i have no clue what to do! someone please help me!i know its a big age difference, but i cant stop thinking about him. ):
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): Maybe you misread me. I was not saying you got involved with him already.
I was predicting what would happen if you do get together. I think that is what you will eventually say about it years from now looking back.
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reader, soconfusedhelp +, writes (21 October 2010):
soconfusedhelp is verified as being by the original poster of the question No no no, you have it all wrong. NOTHING went on between us. We never talked about dating, but I really do like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): If you are like most girls, you will give yourself credit for being ready for an adult man when it gets you what you want. When it's working out well you will say this is just proof of how mature you are.
But when things eventually go bad and you are left emotionally hurt and possibly used, it will be a different story. You will still say that you were mature for your age. But of course you were nowhere near old enough to handle such a man. It's his fault for allowing it to happen. He was an adult and you were a child, it was inappropriate for him to get involved with you no matter what you were saying at the time. You were the victim.
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reader, soconfusedhelp +, writes (20 October 2010):
soconfusedhelp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno! it completely has everything to do with his personality and who he truely is. i like how smart and funny he is. and hes really interesting to talk to. i really love talking to him. looks arent everything to me and thats what i was trying to explain. i really dont want people to think im like that. in fact, even if we cant be together, i still want to continue being friends with him.
and im not sure whats with the title. hes not my sisters ex. and im not in love with him yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): So basically, nothing to do with his personality and he certainly isn't interested in your personality, just is surprised that you're hot now, luckily he realises that he is too old.
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 It's very easy for someone more "mature for their age" to fall for an older guy and I don't personally think age should be anything to judge a relationship by, however, it IS to others.
I've had my fair share of problems with this!
Just bear in mind that you like an older guy because you're more mature, but he might like a younger girl because he's less mature
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