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writes:Long story short, I have no way of being able to spend time with the guy I'm into, let's call him Cole, unless I start spending a lot of time with my friend who is his brother, let's call him Ethan. But I don't want Ethan to feel shafted when I start ditching him for his brother. What do I do?Also it sounds slutty, but I'm open to hooking up with both of them. Dunno if that helps any.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, wow, I never expected what has happened to happen. I thought I would let you guys know that now, 3 and a half months after this issue, I am dating 'Ethan', and it is not at all to get to his brother. He asked me out on a date out of the blue, I agreed, and he showed me a side of himself that I had no idea existed while we were simply friends. He's sweeter and more gentlemanly than I would have ever imagined. He's completely and entirely stifled my lust for his brother. He is incredible, and I'm so glad now that I didn't make a move on 'Cole'! Thanksgiving dinner with his family would have been awkward, wouldn't it've? Haha! Thank you all.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Don't use Ethan to get closer to Cole. That is called using someone and you will only leave him hurt. You say you are open to hooking up with the both of them. That is a bad path to go down, would you really want to come in between two brothers and cause trouble in a family? They would only end up hating you for it. Decide which one you like more and if it is Cole you would like to get with then talk to Ethan and tell him how you feel. Personally if you like Ethan though you should forget about his brother and concentrate on your friendship with him instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): Don't do anything, It is cruel to do this to someone. There is no way to do it without making *Ethan feel shafted, and I am sure that you would want to be treated with more respect than that, so you should treat others with respect. If you can't find another way to spend time with *Cole then I would suggest to move on.
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